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Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 10:12 am**

We have no problem with trying some curry.

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 10:25 am**

I believe the people that go to Desire are more liberal than the average person on the planet. Racism has no place on this planet, and no place at Desire.

I don't think you'll have a problem.

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 11:54 am**

Hello, we can help you because we feel a lot of things in DRM, we are a sudamerican couple not swinger and we were twice at Desire and that experience was very exited.

For us is so hard share with other couples because we just are learning to speak english and we tought that the north Amarican people didn't want to share with us, but us not true, most people is nice, for them is not important your skin color, your lenguage, your age, DRM is an oasis in the desert.

At DRM you can make true all of your Fantasies don't worry just enjoy it.

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 12:11 pm**

Rex&Ruza wrote:We have no problem with trying some curry.

Really not an appropriate comment. While we are sure that you did not intentionally intent to have this be offensive you might want to consider deleting.

Microaggressions are something that are not always obvious when first said, but often have the same negative effects of overt racial comments.

https://hbr.org/2020/07/youve-been-call ... -do-you-do

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/87237106 ... -walk-away

https://www.vox.com/2015/2/16/8031073/w ... ggressions

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 3:10 pm**

No_Regrets wrote:
Rex&Ruza wrote:We have no problem with trying some curry.

Really not an appropriate comment. While we are sure that you did not intentionally intent to have this be offensive you might want to consider deleting.

Microaggressions are something that are not always obvious when first said, but often have the same negative effects of overt racial comments.

https://hbr.org/2020/07/youve-been-call ... -do-you-do

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/87237106 ... -walk-away

https://www.vox.com/2015/2/16/8031073/w ... ggressions

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 4:46 pm**

MountLobos wrote:
No_Regrets wrote:
Rex&Ruza wrote:We have no problem with trying some curry.

Really not an appropriate comment. While we are sure that you did not intentionally intent to have this be offensive you might want to consider deleting.

Microaggressions are something that are not always obvious when first said, but often have the same negative effects of overt racial comments.

https://hbr.org/2020/07/youve-been-call ... -do-you-do

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/87237106 ... -walk-away

https://www.vox.com/2015/2/16/8031073/w ... ggressions

Thanks MountLobos we were trying to think of a good example of the way white privilege comes out in a discussion on racism, and just couldn’t put our finger on it. We appreciate you breaking our writers block and illustrating it for us!

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 5:08 pm**

Back to the original post and questions. As noted above, Desire is a place where you'll find the most non judgemental people around, racism has never been an issue on our past 14 years of visiting....yeah, we started young....haha!

The beauty of a place like that is you get a chance to meet people from all over the world, what matters is your attitude and you as a person, rather than what color or where you're from. Go, leave your concerns home and have the times of your life. Hopefully we're there at the same time next year.

All our best!

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 6:11 pm**

No_Regrets wrote:
Rex&Ruza wrote:We have no problem with trying some curry.

Really not an appropriate comment. While we are sure that you did not intentionally intent to have this be offensive you might want to consider deleting.

Microaggressions are something that are not always obvious when first said, but often have the same negative effects of overt racial comments.

https://hbr.org/2020/07/youve-been-call ... -do-you-do

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/87237106 ... -walk-away

https://www.vox.com/2015/2/16/8031073/w ... ggressions

Thank you for calling this out, and saving us the time to figure out how to make the point.

In response to the original post, in non-COVID times, Desire has felt very welcoming, but it's also the place where the most blatantly racist statement was made casually to me (Mr.) in the hot tub. (I think. It was our first visit to RM where the pool was broken for a few days and they were shuttling us to Pearl and back, so it was either the RM pool or the Pearl hot tub. Doesn't really matter...) In general, I think you'll be welcomed, but at full capacity, you can't guarantee that 100% of the guests will share the same opinions as you do. Although being naked in the hot tub usually means the times I've disagreed with someone end with both of us going "yup, we don't agree, need anything from the bar?"

Posted: **Thu Sep 17, 2020 8:55 pm**

diky wrote:Hi,
I and my wife are an Indian (brown) couple in the mid 30s. We are planning to visit Desire Riviera Maya next year.
We are lifestylers/swingers, but we fear that we might not be able to find another couple to play with because of our race.

Is there racism in Desire Resorts? Do couples in Desire generally prefer to not play with Indian or Asian couples?

Does it matter if we are in a minority race? What are the odds for somebody who is a newbie to find a couple to play with during their first trip?

How long are you planning to stay? I ask because, well, its rare, I know it happens, but...its rare that someone gets to a resort, even DRM or DP and the first afternoon they wind up finding a hook up.

We weren't really even looking on our trip, just got back last Sunday, but on Friday we met a couple that...well if all clicked the wife was into it most assuredly, but ironically the hubby wasn't so much into the other wife. So.......

We've been on a ton of "dates" with other couples in the LS, but we never get freaky on the first date. That's our rule.

Its not your origin that might hinder you, its just meeting someone who you click with that will do that for you. You never know though. Something might happen and you'll have a great time with them.

Posted: **Fri Sep 18, 2020 9:03 am**

@diky
I want to apologize in the open if anything was taking offensive as that was not in any way shape or form my intention. I felt this forum allows people to be free and nobody on these forums are close minded people to take things negatively. We are ALL on this forum as we want to stay positive, happy and all those goods things in life. Again I apologize.

Stay well and lots of good times especially at Desire.

Mark & Laura

Posted: **Fri Sep 18, 2020 10:58 am**

diky wrote:Correction to my earlier post. Just re-checked the booking with my agent. We are actually going for 10 nights in the winter. Thanks.

I was about to say that 4 days isn't enough, but then you corrected your stay to 10 days - that should be enough for the first trip!

You're going to want to stay longer, but most people have to get back to something other than unbridled fun!

Posted: **Wed Sep 23, 2020 7:47 pm**

No_Regrets wrote:
Rex&Ruza wrote:We have no problem with trying some curry.

Really not an appropriate comment. While we are sure that you did not intentionally intent to have this be offensive you might want to consider deleting.

Microaggressions are something that are not always obvious when first said, but often have the same negative effects of overt racial comments.

https://hbr.org/2020/07/youve-been-call ... -do-you-do

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/87237106 ... -walk-away

https://www.vox.com/2015/2/16/8031073/w ... ggressions

Inappropriate? Maybe. But show some grace and realize it was an attempt at humor.

Posted: **Wed Oct 07, 2020 7:56 am**

coloradomtncpl wrote:
No_Regrets wrote:
Rex&Ruza wrote:We have no problem with trying some curry.

Really not an appropriate comment. While we are sure that you did not intentionally intent to have this be offensive you might want to consider deleting.

Microaggressions are something that are not always obvious when first said, but often have the same negative effects of overt racial comments.

https://hbr.org/2020/07/youve-been-call ... -do-you-do

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/87237106 ... -walk-away

https://www.vox.com/2015/2/16/8031073/w ... ggressions

Inappropriate? Maybe. But show some grace and realize it was an attempt at humor.

Well said. Not something I would have said, but holy hell. Btw, the couple (or person) who wrote the original post has deleted their account, it appears. Their comments for everything have been deleted and their private message to us has also been removed from our inbox. So, any response now will not be read by them(him/her??).