First timers…tips and tricks?

[Randlinc]

Hi! We are new to RM but not the lifestyle. Experienced full swap swinger couple. We’ve heard amazing things about Desire and have our first trip coming this December (over our wedding anniversary). We know lots about play parties/group stuff, as well as meeting folks one on one but this is a new kind of experience for us and we’d love some tips for folks new to the resort looking to play with others.

We’re not shy, but I (female half) can be a bit overwhelmed by crazy/loud party scenes. Definitely the types who will be naked wherever we’re allowed and have no issues with talking 20min and then going for fun . Happy to participate in theme nights, etc. just trying to get an idea of what to expect if we’re genuinely looking to go and meet people/play.

Thoughts? Tips? Do/don’t idea?

[ninaandfrank]

Hi welcome to the forum. You’re going to have a great time. I think you already discovered some of the secrets. Anytime you can be naked, get naked. You’ll feel more free and relaxed and others will find you more approachable. There is a definite “flow” to the resort. What we like to do is have room service at the table on our patio, completely naked for breakfast. After that we go to the pool. We hang around the swim-up bar there. Lots of friendly folks there. Around mid-day the play makers play games in and around the pool. Even if you don’t want to participate (some are a little “spring breakish) stick around to socialize. After the activities are done the crowd filters to the hot-tub. This is probably one of the best times to meet other LS couples or couples that may be interested in the LS. After that it is dinner time. You can go to a restaurant (some need reservations), the buffet (just walk in) or another romantic, naked dinner on your patio with room service. There isn’t even any need to order dessert since god gave you everything anyone could ever want to eat. After that it is theme nights. Get creative and go as wild or mild as you feel. It is a great ice-breaker and conversation starter. Try hanging around the lobby bar during and immediately after the show. If it is raining you can go to the disco afterwards but if the weather is good I suggest you head back to the hot-tub for the rest of the night. By midnight everyone is pretty relaxed and the party is rocking. And, yes that will just be your first day. The rest of the days? Well lets just say, rinse and repeat. In general, always try to be kind to the staff. They’re working hard so that we can play hard. If you are staying for at least a few days ask the staff about their catamaran trip. They put about 4 to 6 couples together on a 40 foot catamaran. You can do anything (and anyone) you want for the day trip. Luckily, there aren’t too many rules at Desire but having fun is a definite must.

Frank & Nina