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I'd love to have my wife openly flirted with/hit on by men and women without her knowning I had set it up. She is very attractive so that shouldnt't be a problem but Im wondering how I can do that with her knowing I set the wheels in motion... Any ideas?

If your wife smiles and appears friendly I don't expect you will need to set anything up. Friendly folks seem to attract other friendly folks.

If you go to Pearl in October, I'll take care of that for you. I'm a flirty person and feel that I'll need to be, as my GF is more reserved. I've read that it's more common that the ladies in the couple tend to make decisions and flirt and guys sometimes can be considered creepy for being more aggressive in approaching other ladies. I'll help you with that lol

I don't flirt for that reason. I don't want to be that "creepy" guy at the resort. I'm very reserved because I'm afraid of that label. Lol. My wife is generally very friendly and open, but I was hoping I could have her flattered without even being outgoing.

I just saw you're going in November, guess I can't assist you. Hopefully somebody helps you out.

ctrycher wrote:I just saw you're going in November, guess I can't assist you. Hopefully somebody helps you out.

I'd love a helping hand or 6 or 8 or 10.

MandD wrote:I'd love to have my wife openly flirted with/hit on by men and women without her knowning I had set it up. She is very attractive so that shouldnt't be a problem but Im wondering how I can do that with her knowing I set the wheels in motion... Any ideas?

This is something I tried in the jacuzzi one night . There was a group of us (6-8) talking and the women were discussing boobs. I suggested to one of the husbands to have his wife comment on my wife's breasts while we go for another round at the bar. When we carried the drinks back the two girls were locked in a submission hold trying to swallow each other's tongues. Ohhhlala! And so it begun!
Somebody's got to make the move

Kman&LadyDi wrote:

MandD wrote:I'd love to have my wife openly flirted with/hit on by men and women without her knowning I had set it up. She is very attractive so that shouldnt't be a problem but Im wondering how I can do that with her knowing I set the wheels in motion... Any ideas?

This is something I tried in the jacuzzi one night . There was a group of us (6-8) talking and the women were discussing boobs. I suggested to one of the husbands to have his wife comment on my wife's breasts while we go for another round at the bar. When we carried the drinks back the two girls were locked in a submission hold trying to swallow each other's tongues. Ohhhlala! And so it begun!
Somebody's got to make the move

And you are exactly right with this approach.......the women are in control of what happens next. My suggestion to the flirting issue is to find a couple that you can have good conversation with. This environment will be full of flirting, so I don't think you will have any problem.

lol This is happening if you like it or not

Dammmmm, now if you were going there in October I'm sure my wife would also oblige !

MandD wrote:I'd love to have my wife openly flirted with/hit on by men and women without her knowning I had set it up. She is very attractive so that shouldnt't be a problem but Im wondering how I can do that with her knowing I set the wheels in motion... Any ideas?

In terms of you "setting it up", there is a fine line. Don't try to over-orchestrate anything, because it probably won't play out exactly as you envisioned in your head and you'll sound semi-creepy if you try to get really elaborate when you describe all the details to the person you're setting it up with. And also, it's a dicey proposition to get your wife hit on by somebody without her knowledge because you don't know that she would welcome the advance. But that said, if there is a guy/woman who you can tell is digging on your wife but appears to be too reserved to do anything about it, and if you're sure that your wife would be OK with an advance from that person, there are a couple things you could do:

(the scenarios described below would work best in the Desire Jacuzzi, where women are almost always topless and light play -- with permission -- is common)

1 - pull that person aside and tell them that it would be ok for them to make a move on your wife. Tell them she would say yes if they asked to touch her breasts, or tell them to just put a hand on her leg for starters and read her body english and take it from there.

2 - put a hand on your wife's breast and compliment her, then encourage the other person to feel for themselves. If the other person hesitates, say to your wife "honey, is it ok?". When she says yes then the ice is broken and you're in business.

Obviously both of the moves described above are **ONLY** ok if you are 100% sure that your wife would welcome it, either from you explicitly discussing it with her, or from you just having enough rapport with her to know that she's fine with that sort of thing. Do not leave anything to chance, else drama could ensue!