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This will be our first trip to this type of resort, but frequent a local nudist resort when we can, have been in LS for a few years and are very comfortable.

Question is, is the crowd at pool/hot-tub/disco clicky? We see many comments that all folks are cool and chill and open and friendly (kinda like what you see at a nudist resort). However we also catch an over-confident/clicky/show-offy tone in some posts. We are both social, but passive social. I personally don't mind inserting myself in a moderate crowd, wife not so much unless I accompany her or unless she's directly invited.

We both tend to gravitate quickly away from loud/closed crowds. We have found those types at many LS events, and we just don't mix with that at all. I'm referring to the "we've been here 20 times, come here twice a year, we've fucked everyone here, let us tell you exactly what you need to do while down here and how to do it" or those who will stand around in a loud circle, elbow locked, so as not to be inviting of anyone else types.

Not trying to strike a nerve at all. We're very friendly people. Just want to prepare so I can ensure Susan's week is bliss.

We have never gone on a take over week but can speak for the other weeks.

There have always been some small cliques (groups of a couple couples) that either seriously clicked or reunited. The other 98% have always been open and friendly.

I wouldn't worry.

Mike

mikeinnj wrote:We have never gone on a take over week but can speak for the other weeks.

There have always been some small cliques (groups of a couple couples) that either seriously clicked or reunited. The other 98% have always been open and friendly.

I wouldn't worry.

Mike

Another vote. That being said you have to say smile greet people say hi, and give a hug
You have to let people know you want to chat. Since most are very respectful and don't want to interrupt your trip with spouse.

That's good to know. Thank you both! ~m

Our experience has been that groups who have been there together longer tend to hang out together, but we've never really had any experience where there was a group that wanted nothing to do with everyone else - smile and hi seems to work well!

D&K

I'll also add that sometimes, groups that might *look* like a clique could be simply groups who have just formed right then and there and are simply standing in a circle because that's what you normally do when you want to face everyone in the group.

Thinking back, I'm sure that we may have looked cliquey a few times because a small group of us formed and we were all somewhat huddled together and laughing and having a great time. From the outside, it probably looked like we were old friends who go every year at the same time and don't talk to anyone else when in reality, we just met.

It can be intimidating when you see this kind of group from the outside because you don't know whether they are a formal group or not. I think if you really want to join in, you just have to think of an ice breaker, lob it in, and see how they react. If they look over their shoulder and awkwardly smile, maybe you should move on. If they open up the circle and give the impression you should join them, join.

My guess is you will get more of the latter than the former.

We'd agree with the above responses.

We do remember one lifestyle club takeover at the Desire Cabo, that wonderful venue now long gone.
A group of about 14-16 couples attended together.
For giggles, we and another couple or two tied to penetrate (sorry) the hard, clicky shell the LS group had around themselves, but no chance. They were off-limits.
Really odd. We've never seen anything like it before or since...99% of people (and groups) are wonderful.

I agree with all the above.

We may be clicky but everyone is welcome to join our click at Desire. AND if you meet one person in our click they will be happy to introduce you to everyone else in our click.

Wow I guess Desire is just one giant CLICK.

We have been to DRM three times now. While we are sure Clicks do exist there, we have never had an issue making new friends. Some were just there as a couple while others were part of groups. On several occasions we met people who were there as part of are larger group and were welcomed to meet others they were there with. Agree the a smile and being friendly to those you meet goes a long way!

We went to DRM for the first time this past summer. We've never been to such an alternative resort before. My wife is friendly and will meet people wherever we go, but can be shy in a sexually charged atmosphere while I'm fairly anti-social altogether. With that said, we still spent all day meeting new people, chatting all day. There are some clicks, but most aren't exclusive, just established. So they tend to welcome new people in with open arms. Just hang out in the pool, have some drinks at the swim up bar and smile. You'll be engaged in fun-filled conversation in no time. When I read through this forum before going, I kept seeing that advice and people reiterating that the patrons are some of the friendliest people you'll ever meet. I was skeptical and proven wrong. They guests (and staff) truly are wonderful.

We do not think that it is clicky, but you have to do it this way. Ok that was my try at humor. We went two years ago with a group of 8 couples and it was the first time that we did not meet anyone new, it was fun but sucked at the same time. Our group was too big and intimidating is my guess, too busy talking to one another and not venturing out on our part and I would not have had the guts to approach us even though we would have been very welcoming. I would expect that you guys will have a blast, we can't wait to get there.

king41 wrote: we can't wait to get there.

We can't either King. I was the OP, and noticed your arrival date. Hope to meet you down there!

Thanks all for the excellent posts everyone! Everything seems exactly as expected.

Short answer in our experience is yes clicky. Friendly yes but open to including others in play time not so much.

Seems the couples that know each other already are established as for as play time goes.

I would add guarded to the description rather than clicky though. People seem more guarded as to who they spend time with.

biloxiboating wrote:Short answer in our experience is yes clicky. Friendly yes but open to including others in play time not so much.

Seems the couples that know each other already are established as for as play time goes.

I would add guarded to the description rather than clicky though. People seem more guarded as to who they spend time with.

OK, I can't take it anymore, my spelling OCD is raging.....Clique. Cliquey.

There, I said it. I feel better.