by Siren » Wed Oct 18, 2017 6:38 pm
I thought I'd chime in as the host of a large group that takes over Desire every year. First, how exciting for you to just be beginning your journey. As I'm sure many others have told you...keep talking, asking questions and communicating with one another. This is definitely a journey.
Our group takes over DRM once a year, usually the second week in March. My husband and I have hosted it for a long, long time. Before that, we attended Desire a couple of times just as guests. I would say our group (and probably many others) is comprised of some of the nicest, friendliest, non-pushy people you'll ever meet. It's important to note, I have no agenda here and am definitely not trying to sell you on our event. I think sometimes people think groups are akin to Sodom and Gomorrah or Caligula. Totally not the reality. Does play take place? You bet! However, it's between people who have mutually agreed to play together with no pressure. There's also much less public play than most people would imagine. Lots of people like to indulge in the privacy of their rooms. There's also a percentage that only want to play with their own spouse, but like to be a bit exhibitionist about it. Our group is comprised (as is the lifestyle itself) of every gradation and level of "swingers" you can imagine. We have people that like group sex, couple's swap, soft swap only, girl play only, no play and even those who wouldn't dream of doing a thing, but just like the sexy vibe and fun of a takeover event.
I can tell you, we started this little hobby about 14 years ago, and it took us 3 (count 'em 3!) trips to Desire before we could even think of interacting with another couple. All 3 of those trips were full takeovers and we had the absolute time of our lives. We are still friends with many of the people we met on those 3 trips.
Hope that helps, and best of luck on your new adventures!!
Kathleen