As mentioned really good tips all over, a few items we missed our first time: Grab comfortable easy on/off shoes for bathrooms/food during the day. If you want to eat fancy, bring a set of fancy clothes (aka more then swim trunks). If you have not done all inclusive before, really really really watch the drinking the first day or two, we had to go one drink 2 water/juice, tipping well can get you more alcohol, by day three we were asking them to put less to keep us alive
. The general flow is, pool or beach during the day, we LOVE volleyball or group pool events but that is different for each person. Around 4-5 you see people leaving, time for hot tub, there is a bar so you do not have to jump right in if scared (can walk up dressed to naked, it is all good). Then eat, then hang at lobby bar for entertainment, then club or hot tub. We promise this year to try the 6pm nap since we do not sleep in well.
Now for the important stuff.... meet people ahead of time through the "when are you arriving" boards. Chat, get to know some people that can say hi when you arrive. Try not to over plan/think, it will drive you nuts trying to make a specific plan happen. And most importantly, talk to people.... and this is Desire so you can literally talk about sex or swinging or anything, and quickly... aka "Hi, where yall from.. oh are you in the lifestyle?" is not that unusual. Tell them you are fresh meat... er I mean new, scared, clueless.... people were great to us and kinda took care of us (well yeah to get in our pants but still they were nice). And while there is a ton of info, and you should spend 8 hours just reading, keep asking specific questions here! Or PM peeps, or start asking those going when you are going, etc...