Well, last week we visited Desire for the first time. Of course we had ideas and expectations of what things would be like. Some of them were fairly accurate, some of them were disappointly inaccurate.
We read the forums and did out homework on what was acceptable, encouraged, etc.
On our first day we met a couple of couples that had been several times. This was very helpful to figure out when and where things were happening. It would be pretty tough with no guidance to know some of these things.
I will say, we knew we were on the young side, but really felt we were in the right demographic category for Desire. We are 36 and 33. Apparantly we look much younger than that by the responses we got from people. And also the nickname of "the kids" we aquired within the first 6 hours of being there. I think anyone reading this that was there will know who we are.
We think we will return, but are bothered by some things.
We were under the impression that at the buffet for breakfast or dinner something see through was acceptable. My wife was completely covered up, but her clothes were see through. We got some very obvious looks of disaproval and it made me uncomfortable.
We aren't "in the lifestyle" or "swingers." We have messed around and home with a few people, and were somewhat open with being around another couple, but really weren't sure we were ok with too much. We ended up meeting another couple that were eerily simar to us. They were awesome. We clicked. We all laughed nonstop together. We like like good friends very quickly. Then things went further. Which we were all fine with. The rest of the trip we spent together with them. We hung out together pretty much every minute. We were fairly open. We walked around together. Layed on pool beds together, ate together, etc. We also did this with each others spouses. We freely switched back and forth for walks, laying around, etc. We really had fun, but tried to be as respectful of others as possible. We never did anyhing we felt would make anyone uncomfortable. We did far less in view of others that other coulples were doing. I guess this is not acceptable to some point. We figured if anywhere, it would have been at Desire. We got a lot of blatent dirty looks, people were obviously talking about us. It also seemed to make people think that since we were with another couple it was ok for other guys and couples to be very direct and completely inappropriate to our wives. Dissappointing.
Some of the entertainment staff were pretty inappropriate also we felt. We are pretty open minded, obviously. But there is a line. When male entertainment staff is constantly making talk of sexual innuendo to the point you believe they would jump on the oppurtunity, it gets a little uncomfortable. It wasn't ok for us to be ok walking around with another couple holding hands, but ok for staff to hint around and somewhat directly try to make passes at my wife conveniently while I wasn't near her.
Wish things stayed as scheduled and were posted consistently. Foam party was moved to a different day so we missed it. Bummer. A lot of activities we missed because we had no clue they happened and weren't the right day or time according to the itenenary given to us. Theme nights were switched also. Frustrating. Communication is obviously a major problem.
On a good note, we had fun. The service staff was GREAT. The resort is very nice and we definately had fun. We also met a great couple that we will be friends with for a long time. Was worth the trip just for that.