18th year Anniversary trip!
I had NO IDEA what I was really in for...Husband Half writing this report. Even though I read the forum nearly every day for a month, PM'd with several people, and we talked about it every day and what to expect. I feel like we faced or biggest fears and experienced our most ecstatic joys all in one crazy fun week. Here's the scoop:
First, I booked the trip as we were on a sexual high from a couple of recent experiences. To begin, my wife surprised me with bourdoir pics...they were beautiful and really began the reconnection. You know how it is...long time faithfully married couple with kids, in the grind every day, it's hard to find time for your relationship. We went to Hawaii this summer and experienced a clothing optional spa (unbeknownst to us). It was invigorating...the relaxation you experience when you let your guard down is incredible. We followed that up with a crazy night out at an erotic ball...it was fun and our fantasies were building. After that exciting night out, I wanted to capitalize on our new found wild side. That's when I found Desire. We travel often for our anniversary, so it was not unusual for us to get out of town for a few days. This time...we were going to do it in a sexy environment. If we didn't like it...oh well...we are grown ups...we could leave. So, here we go!
Day 1: We arrive in discretion at Desire RM on a Saturday early afternoon. Within minutes we saw our first topless woman. Ok, we can handle this...relax. Then we received our tour of the resort...Yikes! Not easy for the Newbie wife. She says she's never seen another penis before...that CHERRY POPPED on the way to the poolside buffet. My wife hid her eyes under her hat and just giggled nervously. We were hungry and the room was not quite ready, so we sat at an empty table near the pool. I had to go to the restroom...and that's when I could hear my wife laughing hysterically. I thought...what's she doing? Body shots? Pointing at penises? What could it be? When I returned she was conversing with a wonderfully beautiful couple (inside & out). We'll call them DC. DC recognized that we were new and nervous...so they really took time to make us feel comfortable. They became close friends for the next few days. They invited us to dinner that evening and after hiding away at the beach for a few hours, we actually showed up at dinner along with another nice couple we met...we'll call them Big Easy (the nickname is not what you think...come on, mind out of the gutter for now). Dinner at the Hibachi was awesome. The wife enjoyed a few tequila shots and we left happily to go change for the disco...things are going well. ATTENTION...BREAKDOWN! As soon as she began to change into her sexy lingerie for the theme night...waterworks. Part tequila, part what the hell are we doing here. She regrouped and put on her big girl panties (no pushing, only support by me) and we went to the disco...classy dress...no lingerie. It sucked for the first 10 min...I knew for sure we were going to have to move resorts by morning time. Then...DC intervened. Mrs. DC was so sweet...she really coddled us and along with Mr. DC, they helped us become comfortable that night and realize that there's no judgement and no one is going to attack you at Desire. Extra Tequila shots also contributed to the return to fun that night and we ended up dancing all night. Day 1 verdict...not sure if we can make it the whole trip and definitely not coming back.
Day 2: Anniversary Day. Beach beds and some pool time...really relaxing and we attempted to just remain alone and make the best of it. I had secretly planned for us to have a quiet romantic dinner at a gazebo on the beach. It was phenomenal! We did not drink much this day as the hangover lingered some. My wife looked beautiful in her sexy pink dress and we went to the theme party dressed this way. The band was nice and we met a few more nice people. We watched a Canadian couple who appeared to be incredibly in love...I pointed them out to my wife as an example of how I feel about her. Sometimes you have to step out of yourself to get the big picture. So, after the steak and lobster, we danced a while, then turned in and made love...several times. Verdict: not our cup of tea, but we will make the best of it.
Day 3: After workouts each morning...we had coffee...the coffee here is awesome. We then had a couples massage...not the sensual or erotic, but believe me...it's still somewhat sensual. The massage relaxed us to the point that things were going to be ok. We went from there to lunch and back to our beach beds. To this point...our clothes had remained ON. At the beach beds, the wife took off her top...not for long, but tried it. The beach was hot, so we moved to the pool. We had a fun time there and met another great couple who helped shape our experience...the Texans. They were very nice, a little older than us and we felt very safe talking to them. We enjoyed another nice dinner, this time at Suki. Wife wore the hottest bunny lingerie out that night. We ended with intimate time back at the room. Verdict: this day changed our trip and it's now our bucket list trip. Not sure if we'll return but it's fun.
Day 4: Pool most of the day as weather rolled in and cut the beach in half with a rising tide. We did go up to the jacuzzi for the second time. Didn't really belong there...not too much PDS but enough to turn us off a bit. That's still new for us at the moment...we don't even watch porn on TV much less live. I guess it's ok if the people are trying to be discreet and are attractive, but when it's two people you don't rally want to see, you just can't turn away from the car accident....this image stained us for a while. We got through it and realize now just how stupid it was for us to feel that way in general. Back to the pool where the vibe changed. Upgraded so to speak. More beautiful people arrived. Now how does this affect us? We are not a lifestyle couple. It was a vibe, mood, ambiance that changed. Or maybe the foam party or tequila sunrises that the Texans kept feeding us...not sure. I can say that it was a combination of the new group and us becoming accustomed to the atmosphere...probably more of the latter. We even braved AU NATURAL at the pool during the foam party. Another CHERRY POPPED. Back to our first level room on the beachfront and we pulled the sheers over the wide open doorway and made crazy love...we may have had some peekers in...who knows. We had dinner that night with the Texans. Great company. The wife put on a sexy dress...dancing ensued. In the disco...the wife kissed a girl...and she liked it! CHERRY POPPED! OH CANADA! We ended up on a beach bed at 2 AM making love (just us two). Our first somewhat public sex act...it was awesome! CHERRY POPPED! Verdict: we really are starting to like this place!
Day 5: Roughly the same routine as previously. We even laid out buck naked on the beach beds for a few hours...so relaxing. Topless was our theme at the pool or beach...she really went with it. It was very enjoyable. She glammed up that night...more crazy intimate times. Verdict: why were we so worried a few days ago...this place is awesome!
Day 6: Another spa day. This time I did a 4 handed massage...very sensual and relaxing. She did a 2 hour body treatment...little did we know, it was mixed with a little erotica...and she loved it. It was safe and sexy...very relaxing and tantalizing. This was the moment that she said "we are definitely coming back". We got a poolside bed, next to some other incredibly nice and sexy people. We had fun all day and went with the flow of the resort...even participating in some pool games and getting naked again. We went to the jacuzzi and actually got in for an hour or so. The crowd was a little tamer and we enjoyed ourselves and met some more new friends. Sushi dinner and to the glow party. Before the DC's left, they gave the wife a sexy glow outfit for the theme...it was fun...we wore it and had a great time. After a change to a sexy glammour dress, back up to the disco for dancing and tequila. We partied all night and even put on a little show in the play room...I never thought we'd do that! CHERRY POPPED! Verdict: this should be required for every married couple after 15 years...swinger or not!
Last day: We chilled and left for home.
Our marriage and love life is forever enriched because of this trip. I'm so glad we stayed as long as we did so that we could settle into the environment. We loved the sexually charged yet non-threatening atmosphere. We did what we wanted and went at our own pace. We loosened our boundaries a little and it was very empowering. We popped several personal cherries and made love at least 30 times, in one form or another, with each other. After 18 years of marriage I never dreamed that we'd desire each other this much...and this vacation was the best thing we've ever done to work on US. I highly recommend it to newbies who are nervous and worried about normal worldly issues...after a while, if you will relax, you will find that you will never be stressed out again. Thank you to the fabulous people we met, the staff (who's incredible) and to Desire in general. We will be back in August 2016!
Sorry for the long report...I left out many details...but the cliffs notes are pretty entertaining.
Until Next Time!
B & P