We are now 10 days removed from our first time at DRM. I apologize now as I know this will get pretty long. However when we were looking we enjoyed the detail and insights.
We are not in the lifestyle and have (had ) barely dipped our toes in the nude beach scene. So pretty vanilla. Wife is a little self conscious and has spent about 30 min total in her life "topless" in "public". We got a passion suite to insure that we would have a beach bed in case the comfort level was such that we would spend most of the time on the beach. I was not expecting much as she is really reserved and quiet and has trouble talking to "strangers". Even though she has a soccer mom body and nice DDD-E cups she has a little body image hang up.
We got in and lucky for us the room was ready and check in was really smooth. Nice room we've had better and worse but you don't go here for the room. We checked out the room got unpacked then changed to hit the beach bed. Sure there may not be a huge beach but again you are not really here for a big beach. They do a good job with seaweed removal and the beach may not be as nice as some but is nicer than many. So in my shorts, wife in bikini with cover up on the trip started as i expected it would be most or the entire time clothes wise. There is just a vibe about this place SOOO with in 5 min of being on the beach off came her top! Walking up and down the beach a little and testing the temp of the water. Not being sure how I would feel either au natural was quite comfortable with in 20 min.
Absolutely at no time did we feel inadequate or out of place. Sure there were a few men and women that looked like they knew their way around the gym, but the majority are just like you and us. She actually was nude on the beach for a while as well during our trip and even forgot she had taken her top to the beach once when she headed back towards the room carrying her bottoms. We never have gotten in a resort pool but me naked her topless spent some time in the pool. Guys don't worry some big some small some intimidating looking (body size and looks), ladies the same, but the NICEST people you will ever meet. If you are there on the right day do not miss the foam party. (Still am hoping that it was a woman that kept squeezing my ass but oh well )
We did not take part in the costume dress up nights but did attend and there were a lot of people dressed up. We wish we had participated. There we some very interesting outfits.
The food was good. Better than average and we don't have a negative to say about the food.
The "sales pitch" was a little strong but as most opportunities saying no 3 times did the job and we passed and only gave up about an hour of our trip but got a nice credit we used on the spa and it was well worth it.
We did go up to the disco a couple times and it was pretty nice. Definitely wish we would have spent some more time up there. We looked at the Sin room but nobody was in there yet and we didn't go back when it was "in use". We went up to the Hot tub one afternoon and one evening and it was nice. Great view and quite a lot going on at times. For us not knowing or adjusting to the schedule did not regulate our drinking too well and were quite tipsy way too early to fully enjoy both places.
So we still are not in the lifestyle and haven't even dipped our toes in still. However, on our second night she hinted to maybe wanting to come back. Before we left we were looking at booking our trip for next year! Amazing experience, great time, absolutely no regrets or hesitation on wanting to go back.
My biggest suggestion is read these posts, ask questions (both of you). Wife was content letting me read and then asking a few questions. We set our boundaries and set rules just in case which I still think is a must for first timers like us exploring the possibility to "try it out". But read read read and ask questions. I was pretty prepared and she was not. She said she wished she would have read more because she didn't believe or get the vibe or UNrestrictions of the resort. She didn't realize how sheer, and little the outfits would/could be for dinner and felt a bit out of place in her traditional dinner outfits. She also said she definitely wants to participate in the dress up nights.
Don't miss the late night BLT's and pizza we were craving them for days after getting back.
Sorry if I've jumped around but I think you'll get what I'm putting down. Last but not least. THE PEOPLE. These were the nicest people, friendly, talkative, down to earth, absolutely amazing. Thankfully I had posted and Richard and Stacey suggested the yahoo group. They were wonderful and came right up and introduced themselves I think they could tell we were a bit out of our element. Doug and Rhonda were great also we really enjoyed visiting with them. We really enjoyed everyone we talked to, thank you all so much for the warm welcomes.
We will definitely be back and plan to participate more now that we know what to expect, how to plan the days and how to regulate the alcohol to be upright longer. We are still interested in trying the lifestyle and I even asked if she thought she would be into it one week a year and she said we'd probably end up wanting to do it more that that. She had a nice conversation with one of our balcony mates and she really put the wife at ease on the lifestyle (kinda wish that conversation was earlier in our trip) however I would not change a thing. This was a great experience and brought us closer together. We have been going places for the last 17 years and this is the first place that we both agree that we wanted to go back the next year.
Hope this helps and don't hesitate to ask questions if you want a first timers prospective. Go, leave your inhibitions at the airport and pick them up when you fly out. Relax enjoy the vibe and the people dare to loosen up and you will have a great time just as we did.