Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

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Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

Postby HorribleFrenchAccent » Sat Dec 31, 2016 10:59 am

We have recently returned from our first trip to Desire. The first thing I will report is that we had a great time we are already talking about how to get back. It is surprisingly hard to adjust back to life in a world where we have to wear pants! But even more than that, where we have to suppress our expression of affection and sexuality with each other, let alone with the people we meet.

Before we dig into the report, a little background on how we came to be in the lifestyle: Compared to many of the couples we met, we are a fairly new couple. Most people seemed to be in long-term committed relationships, who found their way into the lifestyle later on. We, on the other hand, began this endeavor as a part of negotiating a partnership where we were both newly divorced and unsure that we viewed monogamy as a successful strategy. We tried dating other people, but our connection to each other rapidly become profound, such that we found the thought of engaging with others in a solo manner to have limited appeal. We had dipped our toes in the lifestyle at a few local clubs, but booked our trip to Desire prepared to explore and find out what might work for us. This turned out to be an amazing strategy. It is hard to explain how going to a place where you expect that you might engage sexually with other people could possibly be so very good for a relationship, but we have decidedly found this to be true. We were in constant dialog and analysis of our experience during the trip and find ourselves back home with even stronger sexual and romantic energy than we could ever have anticipated.

Day 1: Arrival

We arrived at DRM using USA Transfers. You can book them through a link on this forum, which helps the forum administrator keep things running. We would highly recommend them. The price was reasonable and the service was excellent. We were very direct at check-in that we would not sit for a sales pitch. This request was honored and we free in short order. Our room was not ready, but we used the bathroom to swap our jeans for swim suits and left our bags with reception to seek out the lunch buffet. Food is served throughout the day with a view of the pool and the sand volleyball court, so there is plenty of great people watching to be had. We were immediately struck with the vast variety of people of all ages and body types and knew that we were going to feel comfortable.

We made dinner reservations for that night at 6:30. On subsequent days, we learned that we preferred to eat around 8:30-9 as this spaced out our meals better (breakfast was generally later than usual, as was lunch) and also allowed us to maximize happy hour at the Jacuzzi, which became our favorite place to hang out, aside from on the beach itself. After lunch, we were escorted to room 2215 - an ocean view room on the 2nd floor, with which we were very happy. We were away from the construction noise as well as the activity around the pool/Melange bar area. We enjoyed all of our mornings sleeping in with the doors open to let in the sound of the ocean.

After settling in, we got ready to head to the Jacuzzi, as we'd heard this was a fun place to hang out (it was!). N tossed on his bathing trunks for the walk over and I wore a little bralette and tied a sheer sarong around my waist. This tended to be my favorite outfit for moving around the resort. It was sexy and less fussy than a bathing suit and although the men cannot get inside the restaurants without pants and a shirt, women can get away with pretty much anything that has a passing resemblance to clothing, even if it leaves nothing to the imagination. We then found the stairs to the Jacuzzi and discovered our favorite place to be for most of the trip. The Jacuzzi space is a rooftop with a level that includes a large, curvy pool, three outdoor beds and a bar that backs up to the Jacuzzi, a lounge area where you can store your clothes and pick up a towel or use the bathrooms, and then a row of 6-7 canopied beds a bit further away from the pool. The view is lovely and the atmosphere is playful. This is one of the areas of the resort where public sexual activity is sanctioned, so if you have voyeuristic or exhibitionist tendencies, this is a place to indulge them.

A few people did have swimsuits, or swimsuit bottoms on - about 10% maybe - but we're pretty un-self-conscious, so we tossed our clothes aside and jumped right in. One of the first things that struck us (aside from everyone being nude, of course) was that most people were really chill, friendly, and welcoming. We found it very easy to strike up conversations and were soon chatting with several other people, including a charming French Canadian couple who were very much enamored of each other, the lovely and spunky S and M, who were always entertaining, and a few others. We also met the stunning Queen B - who had determined to start the night collecting cocks - by way of offering playful strokes to any man, if his partner was agreeable to her doing so. This was another thing we found pleasant about the vibe at Desire - the deference given to women. With few exceptions, the men all seemed to acknowledge that a) they wouldn't be here if not for their female partners, and b) any sort of creepiness or pushiness would not be tolerated. N was pleased to become number 11 in her game that eventually broke into the 50s. We were disappointed to leave for our dinner reservation, just as we were getting into the flow of things. For future nights, we had dinner at around 8:30, as 5pm-7pm seemed to be a very active time at the Jacuzzi. Overall, the food at Desire is decent, but not noteworthy. Our favorite dinner meal was walk-in at Suki. The reservation options (for the hibachi) were honestly not worth the trouble. We did enjoy the breakfast buffet significantly more than lunch - so we tended to eat heartily around 10:30 am, graze at lunch and have a late dinner to fill the time between happy hour in the Jacuzzi and when the evening entertainment really gets kicking.

The evening's entertainment gets going about 9:30 pm, and revolves around that night's "theme night". Our first night's theme was the glow party. N and I were most definitely invested in embracing the theme nights. We found that a lot of the time, the women would go all out for the theme nights, but their partners would participate halfheartedly, or not at all. I was very happy to be with a partner who put some effort into it - so guys - time to up your game! Trust me when I say that it pays dividends in the form of increased attention! We quickly learned that body paint would have been an amazing addition to our glow-night ensembles and were wowed by some of the women who wore nothing but (Darling Dragon Lady, you were stunning. We apologize, again, for mistaking you for a 25-year old trophy wife. You and your charming husband were some of the smartest, most insightful people we met). I ended up agreeing to participate in the glow "catwalk" which was a fun way to meet other ladies. Women of all ages and sizes strut their stuff for the crowd and I must say that there is nothing like a bar full of people cheering for you to make you banish your body concerns completely. After the night's "show", the party moves to the disco upstairs where a DJ spins club mixes, the liquor flows freely, and dirty dancing gets a whole new meaning. Dressing to be a part of the theme is a great way to attract comments and discussion with other couples and the disco is certainly more fun once you have made some friends.

After the disco, we returned to the Jacuzzi. N and I were both curious and open to the possibility that the scene there might lead to engaging with another couple. However, we were not really sure how such connections might be established and were also content to enjoy each others company. After a languorous hour or so in the water, with couples attending to each other sexually all around us, we moved to one of the beds. As we were engaging with each other, we noticed that the French Canadian couple we met earlier was on the bed beside us. We had interfaced with them several times throughout the evening and noticed that they were filled with a sexy, fun energy and clearly deeply in love with each other. It is this kind of energy that makes the other people at Desire so compelling. Just as with N and I, they were fit, but normal people, but they were made so beautiful by her easy laughter and the playful twinkle in his eyes. She and I made sustained eye contact through the curtains for a long moment and then she stood up, approached our bed and kissed me on the cheek. She told us that if we would like to join them, we would be welcome. I turned to N to make sure he agreed and suddenly and quite organically, we were engaged in our first swinging encounter with another couple. There were a number of things I did not expect that made this experience amazing. First, N and I have decided that, for now, we are soft swap only. I was not sure when and how such an issue might be negotiated, but when I ended up situated in a position with another man on top of my body, I knew I had to be direct. I also found that my desire to be in this space very much revolves around feeling connected to my partner. So I was grateful that this was clearly the case for the other couple as well, because we proceeded at a leisurely pace, with many pauses to check in with all four people, and to experience the moment. One of the highlights of the encounter was watching my partner bring another woman to orgasm with his mouth and have her respond by breaking into joyous, appreciative laughter. I hugged her and laughed and bonded with her as we agreed that N is very, very talented. Who knew how very much it would inflame my desire for my partner to see him make love to another woman so skillfully. In the end, after many climaxes were had, we all lay tangled up on the bed and talked about our relationships and our children. It was an expansive and deeply connecting experience. N and I repaired to our room where we made love once again and then agreed that if this was the only encounter of our trip, we would be more than perfectly satisfied.

Little did we know that this was just the beginning of four fun-filled days. I have to do a bit of work now, but will be back to post more. :D

S&N
Athletic, fun couple in our 30s. Into exhibitionism and voyeurism. Just getting started in the lifestyle. Looking for friends and fun!
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Re: Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

Postby tan44 » Sat Dec 31, 2016 1:59 pm

Excellent
Looking forward for the rest of the report
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Re: Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

Postby SexxxyInMe » Sun Jan 01, 2017 12:49 pm

A fantastic start! Thanks for posting. Looking forward to reading more!
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Re: Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

Postby Explorer79 » Sun Jan 01, 2017 7:31 pm

HorribleFrenchAccent wrote:We have recently returned from our first trip to Desire. The first thing I will report is that we had a great time we are already talking about how to get back. It is surprisingly hard to adjust back to life in a world where we have to wear pants! But even more than that, where we have to suppress our expression of affection and sexuality with each other, let alone with the people we meet.


This was the same for us as well. For our first trip we stayed at a vanilla resort for a few nights after Desire (no way I could've gone straight back to reality, especially not after the first trip). The "Desire Effect" as my wife has coined it spilled over into our activities at that resort and beyond.

It is hard to explain how going to a place where you expect that you might engage sexually with other people could possibly be so very good for a relationship, but we have decidedly found this to be true. We were in constant dialog and analysis of our experience during the trip and find ourselves back home with even stronger sexual and romantic energy than we could ever have anticipated.


Completely agreed. It has only been 3 months since our first trip and the Desire afterglow is still there. Also it has changed our relationship, or more accurately added to our relationship and our interactions with others - everything now seems to have an even sexier vibe, and our communication skills, which were fine before, have taken on a new level as well - all with very positive results!

Can't wait to read more :L
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Re: Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

Postby Hotutahcouple » Mon Jan 02, 2017 9:38 pm

This is so great and keeps our excited anticipation at its highest. Thank you.
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Re: Enthusiastic Newbies - Trip Report Day One - Dec 2016

Postby SandM » Tue Jan 03, 2017 9:44 am

:)
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