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Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.

I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:

When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspect my story is not uncommon.

My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.

Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.

Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.

I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.

Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.

I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:

When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspect my story is not uncommon.

My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.

Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.

Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.

I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.

tomandlacey wrote:

Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.

I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:

When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspekct my story is not uncommon.

My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.

Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.

Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.

I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.

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The dual lives part in particular... We all do it... and coming from conservative roots it's often important that we keep parts of our lives really private. I actually watch people's location with great interest with many more posters seem to be coming from more conservative areas than the classically "liberal" areas...

Definitely not trying to open a political discussion, but coming from Australia but having spent considerable time in the USA, how important is it for people to maintain that classic facade at home?

SecretSmileToday wrote:

tomandlacey wrote:

Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.

I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:

When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspekct my story is not uncommon.

My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.

Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.

Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.

I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.

....

The dual lives part in particular... We all do it... and coming from conservative roots it's often important that we keep parts of our lives really private. I actually watch people's location with great interest with many more posters seem to be coming from more conservative areas than the classically "liberal" areas...

Definitely not trying to open a political discussion, but coming from Australia but having spent considerable time in the USA, how important is it for people to maintain that classic facade at home?

I (Mr. SecretSmileToday) am definitely seeing Mrandmrst’s way of looking at this, and have really enjoyed reading Frosty82’s more recent posts.

As to tomandlacey’s question, we’re “out” to most of our closest vanilla friends but definitely not our families. We’ve definitely seen couples get very, very tense around the idea (or experience) of outing. Depending on your community/ family/ workplace/ church/ ... it can be a real problem.

I’m curious what thoughts or experiences others have had.

Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.

I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:

When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspect my story is not uncommon.

My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.

Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.

Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.

I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.

SecretSmileToday wrote:
I (Mr. SecretSmileToday) am definitely seeing Mrandmrst’s way of looking at this, and have really enjoyed reading Frosty82’s more recent posts.

As to tomandlacey’s question, we’re “out” to most of our closest vanilla friends but definitely not our families. We’ve definitely seen couples get very, very tense around the idea (or experience) of outing. Depending on your community/ family/ workplace/ church/ ... it can be a real problem.

I’m curious what thoughts or experiences others have had.

Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.

I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:

When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspect my story is not uncommon.

My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.

Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.

Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.

I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.

werfun wrote:Are you talking about the couple that go to church for every meeting and go and look down their nose at a off color joke. We use to know a lot of people like that from our former church as well as the small town that I grew up in outside Chicago. It's a case of "DO WHAT I SAY NOT WHAT I DO'. We find it funny how these same people won't look you in the eye the next time they see you. At a party that we went to one couple wanted to soft swing and when my wife saw the women a couple of weeks later in down town and said HI the women looked at her and said 'Do I now you". We walked away shaking our heads. Hope he couple at Hidden Beach at est said hello and had a drink with you.