SexyLIcouple wrote:We are not swingers, but also not prudes. We like to have fun and party and love a great pool atmosphere with drinks and good music.
We are somewhat anxious about comfort level and pressure from swingers. Any recommendations would be appreciated.
HaHaHa, LOL...….. those darn high pressure in your face lifestyle swingers that are lurking everywhere to get first dibs at the new comers and harass them endlessly.
This reminds me of a couple that we introduced ourselves to that looked like the deer in the headlights and by themselves for their first few days. We invited them to dinner with us since they appeared to be new comers. They too were concerned about all the swingers looking at them as 'fresh meat'. I burst out laughing and apologized. Swingers are honestly ordinary people, exceptionally respectful to others generally, a trait of being in the lifestyle. I could say the majority of swingers would not want even spend time convincing a vanilla or a soft to swing. Not because of the person(s), looks or personality, swingers generally don't want first timers, maybe's or an opp's in judgement to wreck their holiday with drama that will follow.
So don't even think that you are something special everyone was waiting for you to arrive. You will be disappointed if you come with that in mind. Sorry for laughing, but the stereotyping of swingers is hilarious and all too common. My best guess is that you will not be able to determine who they are and may even have some issues with other drunk non swingers.