I initiated our first trip a few months after my husband suggested it (with no pressure) as an option for an upcoming spring trip. After some time and some research, I began to think that it might be a sexy way to re-connect with my husband (and only him). I had all of the same anxiety - people having sex everywhere, other people pressuring us to join them, etc.
As the trip approached, we went out a few times specifically to discuss how we would operate when we got there - or basically my ground rules
. I spent some time thinking things through and writing down my thoughts ahead of time, so that helped me in the discussion. Overall, this helped us to get on the same page with all of it.
When the time came to go on the trip, we were both a bundle of nerves. We just put one foot in front of the other and pushed through it. All it took was a few hours and I got more and more comfortable. My anxiety settled and I became more and more relaxed and comfortable throughout the week.
The biggest reason I loved my first experience at Pearl was because of the wonderful people that I met and the conversations that we had with them. I learned that this was one of the few places where people actually talk to each other and had real conversations. Initially, I thought I would never see people again. However 4 years and 7 trips later, we see many of the same people each time we go. We also stay in touch with several couples and even coordinate our trips with others. Another reason I love Pearl so much is that I have gained self-confidence in myself. When the clothes come off, everyone becomes more vulnerable and human. Everyone has a different shape body - and that's ok!
Echoing others, you can get as much out of the place as you want. Sit back on your lounger and watch, or get in the pool and talk to people. Go to the jacuzzi and chat, or just go back to your room and ravage your husband (or vice versa).
I have never experienced anyone pushing me (or us) into anything. If there is any hint of such a thing, my husband and other gentlemen have put themselves in between and discouraged the behavior.
So relax and enjoy. Go with your gut. Have fun.
Mrs.