To begin with, we'd like to thank everyone for the trip reports, answers, posts, etc - not to mention for the board itself! We've probably read every first time related post twice!
As a soon-to-be empty nest couple and both turning 50, we've been wondering about doing a couples only, more sexually adventurous (at least adventurous for us) getaway and have been looking at going to Pearl. One thing that really spoke to us was the description of the culture as being sexually charged, but very accepting of non-LS folks.
Anyway, having read a lot of the trip reports, we had two questions and thought we'd reach out to the collective experience of those here. The reason for asking is that (it seems) that the trip reports seem to skew towards LS people or non-LS people who started to dip their toes into the water, so to speak. That totally makes sense, since we can imagine the adrenaline rush from that!
Anyway, we were wondering....
First, she is uncertain/nervous about going topless or nude - and having the option was a big draw given the C/O setting. She wants to at least use the opportunity to dress sexier/skimpier than normal, but is unsure about going farther. (Going nude is an definite draw for me). Given what you've seen, how much would she feel like she is standing out if she never goes topless or less the whole time we're there? She might try doing so and we like the idea of things like dressing up for theme nights,etc -- but she doesn't like the idea of feeling like she "has to" go farther, if that makes sense.
Second, we are non-LS and don't expect that to change on this trip, though we like the idea of being somewhere that feels sexually charged. Most descriptions imply a roughly 50-50 split of LS/non-LS folks, but it seems like many of the first-time non-LS trip reports include people getting drawn in a bit. (e.g. flirting, a kiss, or more) As an example, is just hanging out or chatting at the hot tub going to be viewed as "accepted but weird" if there's no "interactions" with other couples?
Basically, we're looking to have a bit of a sexual/romantic adventure, but one that might look pretty vanilla for the average person at Pearl. In the end, I guess we're wondering if we'll feel like we're being looked at like "that weird prudish couple", lol.