Rookie92 wrote:OK, my husband and I have planned our first trip this December. I've been reading some comments on the Forum and I'm really excited. I have always felt comfortable in my skin and walk naked around the house. Actually, I prefer to be naked. But, I'm seeing some of these profile pics and it has me feeling anxious. You Ladies are gorgeous! We have been married for 28 years and are in our late 40s. My husband has lost weight and looks amazing. Me, I've been skinnier. 5'4, 36D and 160 lbs. I guess you could describe me as soft body. I guess I'm feeling anxious because I don't want to feel like the old woman looking like she is trying to feel and look young again. For those of you that have been here before, are they all body types and ages?
What a great question... glad you asked. This is a thing that literally everyone that's been to Desire has felt to one level or another. There's a lot of different aspects to this. To answer your direct question: yes. There are people from 25-80 in all shapes and sizes, and they are all beautiful.
1. Part of the magic of Desire is what happens when you remove clothing from the equation. The first thing that happens is that your insecurities actually kind of go away. I know the thought of taking your clothes off in front of a bunch of strangers SEEMS like it would have the opposite effect, but you just need to trust me (and everyone else that's been): it's actually the clothes that make you insecure. You mentioned you like to walk around naked in your house. I'll bet you only notice your "imperfections" once you put on clothes and you're sometimes bothered by the way they fit. Truthfully, everyone of every size and shape looks better naked. Period.
2. There will always, always,
always be someone there who is "hotter", skinnier, with bigger boobs, with perkier boobs, with a bigger dick, with better skin, with fewer wrinkles, who is taller.... anything... there will ALWAYS be someone there who is any of those things. But there will
always be someone who is "less hot", thicker, with smaller boobs, with droopier boobs, with a smaller dick, with spottier skin, with more wrinkles, who is shorter... any of those things... there will ALWAYS be someone there like that. What you learn within the first 5 minutes at Desire is that NONE of it matters... like, at all (see point 1). Sure, in the months leading in to a Desire trip, we all work hard to get in OUR best shape, but that best shape doesn't matter objectively - it matters subjectively. My best shape isn't your best shape. We do it so we feel confident and excited to be naked, not to measure up to any standard (see point 3).
3. What is sexy isn't how you look naked, it's how you feel naked. I've seen people that looked like models who were so insecure they couldn't drink enough to drown their self-doubts, so drank themselves stupid and were never seen from again. They were not attractive. I've seen folks with an extra 30 or 40 pounds just running the entire party at the jacuzzi with the confidence of a thousand suns... they were like magnets. When you're naked there are no labels to show off or be ashamed of on your clothes - all your value as a person comes from you, and you get to tell the world who that is.
That's all a really long way to say this: If you love yourself and your body enough to be happy naked at home, then you're ready to go. It's probably scary, but within 5 minutes you'll be in the magic bubble that is Desire, and you'll completely forget you're naked. You'll just feel like you, the way you do at home. I do encourage you to do what we do: work out like crazy and lose as much weight as we can a couple months leading in. Again, not to prove anything, but because we like to feel OUR best when we strip down. Not THE best... OUR best.
Hope that helps - sorry for the novel, this is kind of a soap box for me to anyone who will listen back here in our "normal" life. Hope to see you there some day!
Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2020 4:13 pm
