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My wife and I have been to several nude beaches in the last couple years. I enjoy them. She likes them, but not as much as me. Shes more comfortable with just topless. I want to try Desire for a birthday trip. My wife is hesitant because she doesn’t want to be hit on or think everyone is trying to get us to join in with them. Which I can appreciate. I don’t want to pressure her to try Desire. And I don’t want to ruin any potential future opportunity.

So, the question… for non LS, how often do you get hit on or asked to join in? We are early 40s. My wife is beautiful. I know that No means No. But I am more trying to gauge how often “No” might be required. She’s not going to want to be hit on the whole time. She’s very introverted, so the whole idea just scares her.

Thanks!

MSLionfish wrote:My wife and I have been to several nude beaches in the last couple years. I enjoy them. She likes them, but not as much as me. Shes more comfortable with just topless. I want to try Desire for a birthday trip. My wife is hesitant because she doesn’t want to be hit on or think everyone is trying to get us to join in with them. Which I can appreciate. I don’t want to pressure her to try Desire. And I don’t want to ruin any potential future opportunity.

So, the question… for non LS, how often do you get hit on or asked to join in? We are early 40s. My wife is beautiful. I know that No means No. But I am more trying to gauge how often “No” might be required. She’s not going to want to be hit on the whole time. She’s very introverted, so the whole idea just scares her.

Thanks!

It's been discussed here 100 times.... in my experience, my wife is usually one of the more 'fit' people there...and we never have issues (have been 7 times). Usually a quick, 'sorry, we aren't in the lifestyle' is all it takes. Out of 7 times, there has been 1 or 2 playful attempts to get us to 'come to the other side'... but nothing inappropriate or anything bad.

No one should overstep or pester you. You can be clothed, partially clothed, naked. You can be voyeurs, exhibitionists, soft swap, full swap, or none of the above and still have an awesome time where people will chat you up, respectfully, but that's it. If you indicate more is acceptable, people should / will still ask for permissions. If you make it clear you aren't into things, folks will simply move on and not bother.

We have been going to Desire for more than 14 years and we have never had an issue. My wife's strategy is to mention we are not in the lifestyle as early as she can

And we have always had great conversations with lots of people who are or are not in the lifestyle.

Yeipi wrote:My wife's strategy is to mention we are not in the lifestyle as early as she can

And we have always had great conversations with lots of people who are or are not in the lifestyle.

This is exactly my strategy as well and it works extremely well. Almost all the LS people we end up chatting to tend to be interesting conversationalists and we’ve never had an issue. Most people start with small talk before “asking to join”

Let the conversation flow naturally, open up about why you’re there, then invite them to share their story as well. It’s fascinating and one of the best parts of the trip!

Yes, totally agree with the above. Just talk to people and they will find out very quickly that if you don't bring it up, neither will they. They may not talk to you that much more after that, but keeping talking to other guests, and soon you will find great like minded folks like you.

One time we were there, my wife was being flirted with by some dude, quite hard. Later in the evening, I figured I'd help out both of them by telling him, quietly, that we're not LS and he wasn't going to get anywhere - mainly to be polite to him, more than anything, so he wouldn't feel misled. Then my wife scolded me, because she enjoyed the flirting.

You can't win

(in case this wasn't clear - all that was said in good fun)

Yikes, whats that they say about making sure you have a comfy couch and a keg of beer in your doghous? When folks (not limited to men) flirt with Nina, I know it is my time to shut up and let her take the lead.

livelearn131 wrote:One time we were there, my wife was being flirted with by some dude, quite hard. Later in the evening, I figured I'd help out both of them by telling him, quietly, that we're not LS and he wasn't going to get anywhere - mainly to be polite to him, more than anything, so he wouldn't feel misled. Then my wife scolded me, because she enjoyed the flirting.

You can't win

(in case this wasn't clear - all that was said in good fun)

We are not LS and we love going there, and while we have been asked, it is ALWAYS very polite and i doubt it would make you or your wife uncomfortable.

We've been to Pearl a couple of times and have been asked about being in the LS (the invitation kind of ask and not just a curious conversation topic) a couple of times the first trip and once the second trip. But I agree with the above post (Lookinforfun), it's always polite and professional - I think much more so that it would be at a vanilla resort if you're getting hit on. My wife is very hot and I'm always a little on guard to make sure she's not being pursued. I think she's safer at Pearl than most other places. I've been at vanilla resorts where I've been concerned about her walking to bathroom in her bikini, but I'm not the least bit concerned at Pearl with her walking there nude. Sure, anything could happen anywhere, but in my opinion Pearl is a safe place to enjoy an experience you can't really get anywhere else.

My partner is very beautiful but everyone is very respectful. She did get her tits licked by someone but that was purely consensual during the foam party....

TitanTn wrote:We've been to Pearl a couple of times and have been asked about being in the LS (the invitation kind of ask and not just a curious conversation topic) a couple of times the first trip and once the second trip. But I agree with the above post (Lookinforfun), it's always polite and professional - I think much more so that it would be at a vanilla resort if you're getting hit on. My wife is very hot and I'm always a little on guard to make sure she's not being pursued. I think she's safer at Pearl than most other places. I've been at vanilla resorts where I've been concerned about her walking to bathroom in her bikini, but I'm not the least bit concerned at Pearl with her walking there nude. Sure, anything could happen anywhere, but in my opinion Pearl is a safe place to enjoy an experience you can't really get anywhere else.

Now that you mention it, I think I agree with this lol. I was much less concerned about my s/o being hit on on our two trips to Pearl than I would be if we were out back home.