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My wife and I have been to several nude beaches in the last couple years. I enjoy them. She likes them, but not as much as me. Shes more comfortable with just topless. I want to try Desire for a birthday trip. My wife is hesitant because she doesn’t want to be hit on or think everyone is trying to get us to join in with them. Which I can appreciate. I don’t want to pressure her to try Desire. And I don’t want to ruin any potential future opportunity.

So, the question… for non LS, how often do you get hit on or asked to join in? We are early 40s. My wife is beautiful. I know that No means No. But I am more trying to gauge how often “No” might be required. She’s not going to want to be hit on the whole time. She’s very introverted, so the whole idea just scares her.

Thanks!

MSLionfish wrote:My wife and I have been to several nude beaches in the last couple years. I enjoy them. She likes them, but not as much as me. Shes more comfortable with just topless. I want to try Desire for a birthday trip. My wife is hesitant because she doesn’t want to be hit on or think everyone is trying to get us to join in with them. Which I can appreciate. I don’t want to pressure her to try Desire. And I don’t want to ruin any potential future opportunity.

So, the question… for non LS, how often do you get hit on or asked to join in? We are early 40s. My wife is beautiful. I know that No means No. But I am more trying to gauge how often “No” might be required. She’s not going to want to be hit on the whole time. She’s very introverted, so the whole idea just scares her.

Thanks!

It's been discussed here 100 times.... in my experience, my wife is usually one of the more 'fit' people there...and we never have issues (have been 7 times). Usually a quick, 'sorry, we aren't in the lifestyle' is all it takes. Out of 7 times, there has been 1 or 2 playful attempts to get us to 'come to the other side'... but nothing inappropriate or anything bad.

No one should overstep or pester you. You can be clothed, partially clothed, naked. You can be voyeurs, exhibitionists, soft swap, full swap, or none of the above and still have an awesome time where people will chat you up, respectfully, but that's it. If you indicate more is acceptable, people should / will still ask for permissions. If you make it clear you aren't into things, folks will simply move on and not bother.

We have been going to Desire for more than 14 years and we have never had an issue. My wife's strategy is to mention we are not in the lifestyle as early as she can

And we have always had great conversations with lots of people who are or are not in the lifestyle.