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My wife and I are thinking of going to Pearl in September to celebrate 20 years together and 15 years of marriage (Her idea, but I'm definitely onboard). We would like to know what made people decide on these resorts when you went for the first time. How quickly did you excersise your option and go without the clothes? We are not now nor have we ever been "In the lifestyle", but today she expressed concern over what if after drinks we indulge, what our feelings and concerns would be the next day/week/month/year(s). The first time those of you who are in the lifestyle (however you say it) chose to take that step how did it affect your relationship or did it? Just to be clear, I have no reservations, but now she might. We both think that this would be a fun and excillerating vacation (we have never really taken a vacation before-1 week in Vegas once doesn't count since we used to live a couple hour drive from there and it was our home away from home). We look forward to your experiences, insights and advice (the more advice the better to help us make our decision). Thank you in advance.

What most Desire newbies think they will be like when they arrive for the first time

What most Desire newbies are like within hours after the actual arrival

Ha ha that is so true!
The clothes optional bit was never a problem for us as we were used to going to nudist beaches in Europe. The lifestyle bit however was a bit daunting. My advice? Even though you've not been yet and don't really appreciate what it's all about, talk about your personal boundaries. Agree that if one of you starts to do something the other is not comfortable with, you'll stop, no questions asked.
If you are anything like us on our first trip, you'll probably find the sexy, free vibe will just make it impossible to take your hands off each other, and you won't worry about anyone else!

Where to start! We had been to several nudist clubs and discovered that we enjoy being nude by ourselves or with others. After a visit to a high end resort where we had hoped to relax around the pool and spa was spoiled by large groups of children running around and yelling in both the pool and spa while their parents sat by the pool bar with drinks saying aren't they cute. Now don't get us wrong as we love children and have 4 of our own but after spending several hundred dollars per night we didn't have the relaxing time at the pool like we hoped. So we started looking for Adult only resorts one of our friends own a Travel Agency so we asked him about it. He had just returned from a TA visit to both Desires and Hidden Beach, He recommend Desire Los Cabos because it was couples only, newer and cost less and it was much easier to get to for us. We had heard about Hedo 2 and he wouldn't recommend it because it was run down and they had problems with some single men. So we booked our first trip to DLC in Nov.2008, then again in Feb.2009; family issues and work stopped any return visits until Sep. 2011 for wives birthday then again for Halloween 2011. We hope to return this Sept for our 6 trip to a Desire Resort. By the third day both of you will be nude and wonder why it took that long to be nude in the pool.
Now the other issue about maybe being with someone else is something that the both of you need to talk about a few times before you get to Desire. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE talk to each other about maybe being with someone else. How each of you will feel if that happens, remember that if it happens it is just fun sex not the deep loving sex that you have with each other that makes you a couple for over 20 years. We have had a few lifestyle meets and found that it has added a little thrill to our relations ship we have also discovered that we are the best for each other. To be honest you will be to busy chasing your wife around to think about playing with others. But if you do play with others just remember that it is only sex not and the love that you have for each other.

Thank you for your thoughts. We both agree we want a nice relaxing fun vacation. Most likely we won't invite another couple in with us but she is having "what if" scenarios run through her mind. I am much more likely to walk around freely without clothes. She is very self conscious which she shouldn't be, she's gorgeous.

Who I really want to hear from though are those that have never been nude infornt of others like this and went anyway. I want to hear their stories. I want to know what went through your minds before, during and especially after the trip. I'm guessing if those people are on here they enjoyed it and only have good things to say, I assume if someone went and hated it they aren't enjoying this forum. But I want to hear from you guys anyway.

Is 7 nights too long? At least for the first time?

By the way, how soon should we book? I'm active duty military in the U.S. and have only certain times that I can go, and I'm not sure on what dates yet. I'm just hoping we can go anytime between mid-August and mid-September.

We have a ton of questions because of the cost of this but I don't want to ask too many in one post. LOL.

Well put,my wife and I think just the same.

werfun wrote:Where to start! We had been to several nudist clubs and discovered that we enjoy being nude by ourselves or with others. After a visit to a high end resort where we had hoped to relax around the pool and spa was spoiled by large groups of children running around and yelling in both the pool and spa while their parents sat by the pool bar with drinks saying aren't they cute. Now don't get us wrong as we love children and have 4 of our own but after spending several hundred dollars per night we didn't have the relaxing time at the pool like we hoped. So we started looking for Adult only resorts one of our friends own a Travel Agency so we asked him about it. He had just returned from a TA visit to both Desires and Hidden Beach, He recommend Desire Los Cabos because it was couples only, newer and cost less and it was much easier to get to for us. We had heard about Hedo 2 and he wouldn't recommend it because it was run down and they had problems with some single men. So we booked our first trip to DLC in Nov.2008, then again in Feb.2009; family issues and work stopped any return visits until Sep. 2011 for wives birthday then again for Halloween 2011. We hope to return this Sept for our 6 trip to a Desire Resort. By the third day both of you will be nude and wonder why it took that long to be nude in the pool.
Now the other issue about maybe being with someone else is something that the both of you need to talk about a few times before you get to Desire. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE talk to each other about maybe being with someone else. How each of you will feel if that happens, remember that if it happens it is just fun sex not the deep loving sex that you have with each other that makes you a couple for over 20 years. We have had a few lifestyle meets and found that it has added a little thrill to our relations ship we have also discovered that we are the best for each other. To be honest you will be to busy chasing your wife around to think about playing with others. But if you do play with others just remember that it is only sex not and the love that you have for each other.

I would guess that almost every adult has a lot of thoughts going thru their mind before going nude in front of strangers for the first time.
1. What if we run into someone that we know; Don't worry about it after all they will be nude as well
2. What if the other people look a lot better than I do; Again don't worry about it all of us have the same equipment( body parts) some have more some have less
and in a very short time you won't even notice that you are nude. Each one of us men and women have body image problems. Wife is 5'2" and weights 165, husband is 6'3" and weights 320 so you can see we are a long way from being ideal. But hey who cares we go and have a great time with all the great people there.
3. There are many more thoughts that run thru your mind but I can't think of them right now.
Don't forget that little children have no trouble being nude around others until they are taught that being naked is bad and that they shouldn't do it. Being nude is really the most natural thing of all, lets not forget that Adam and Eve was created nude so God(or who ever you believe in) doesn't believe that being nude is bad.
I say plan a trip, go with no ideas on what may or may not happen and you will have a wonderful fun filled time. Most of the people there will not judge you if you
or nude or not, If you play with others or not, Most of the guest that go to Desire are the most laid back, friendly, non pushy people that you ever meet. On our trips we have met lawyers, police officers, pilots, diamond dealers, farmers, and just lots of normal people having a great fun filled time.

FromSeattle wrote:Is 7 nights too long? At least for the first time?

Having been at Desire 26+ times since it opened and seeing newbies that only limited availability of time off / fund restrictions, etc I would say that 7 days is just about right - for newbies it takes a couple of days to "come down" from the outside world and get into what Desire is all about

By the way, how soon should we book? I'm active duty military in the U.S. and have only certain times that I can go, and I'm not sure on what dates yet. I'm just hoping we can go anytime between mid-August and mid-September.

Personally I would recommend that you book thru one of the US based Travel Agents that specialize in Desire ie: CharTravel, DennyP, etc - It dosen't cost you anymore to do so but you do get personalized service - communicate via a native English speaker, ability to easily shuffle your booking dates if necessary, etc

I was going to call and see if I can get a better deal than travel sites (Expedia, Orbitz, Priceline, Travelocity, etc.) from the hotel directly. I'm still surprised that travel agents exist in this day and age.

I wonder (Doubt it since it's a foreign country) if they would give a U.S. military discount or if their is any other way to get discounted on the room. I am hopefully going to try to nail down dates tomorrow at work.

FromSeattle wrote:I was going to call and see if I can get a better deal than travel sites (Expedia, Orbitz, Priceline, Travelocity, etc.) from the hotel directly. I'm still surprised that travel agents exist in this day and age.

I wonder (Doubt it since it's a foreign country) if they would give a U.S. military discount or if their is any other way to get discounted on the room. I am hopefully going to try to nail down dates tomorrow at work.

We just booked through Orbitz and got a much better price than we could find through any of the travel agents who specialize in Desire or from the resort websites. Orbitz (and sister company Cheaptickets.com) run a weekly promo code for discounts on hotels which includes the Desire resorts. The discount amount and code changes about every week on Mondays. We booked last week when the promo was 25% off the regular Desire prices plus we also got the Pearl 4th night free promo. The 25% off was a considerable savings over the resorts website prices or anything the travel agents could offer. I believe the Orbitz and Cheaptickets promo dropped to 15% this week, but it seems to go up and down every few weeks.

How do you find the promo code?

The code on Cheaptickets.com is cheapskate. It is 25% off if you book this week.

We were once in almost the exact same situation as you are right now. We had only ever been on one vacation (visiting family doesn't count - thats work - LOL). We were not in the lifestyle and we had never been to any sort of nudist resort or event. I'd have to say, you have nothing to worry about, and as long as you talk about your concerns with each other you'll have a great time. Our first trip, we booked through Air Canada Vacations (a very vanilla online travel agency). The booking included an airport to resort transfer, which at the time we didn't think was a big deal until we got to Mexico and we were put onto the short bus with 3 other families (with kids). We figured, OK, they'll drop us off last...nope...Desire was the closest, so they dropped us off first. There were no problems though, the kids were just fascinated by the alligators in the pond at the front of the resort.

We got there before noon, so our room wasn't ready until about 1500ish, so after check in we just wandered around the resort and had a few drinks. We didn't have any beachwear handy so we were just in "travelling clothes". She was naked within 15 mins after check in, for me, it took about an hour. I just felt out of place wearing shorts, and it was great to be naked. If you are anything like us though, and I'm making an assumption from your screen name, you prob don't get a lot of sun in Seattle, you should make sure to tan the "bits" before going. The last thing you want at Desire is a sunburn on the important parts. My biggest fear was running into someone that knew us, and sure enough, as we are both walking naked down the beach we heard someone calling our names from one of the beach beds. We almost had heart attacks...turns out it was just another couple from one of the Yahoo forums that we joined before going. We ended up sitting naked, drinking and chatting with them until our room was ready. The strange thing is, despite being naked, there wasn't really anything sexual about it. It seems like once clothes come off, people don't pretend to be something they are not. It was a really good introduction to Desire for us. There was just something about the atmosphere there, that by supper on the first night, we were already talking about when our second trip was going to be, not if, but when. LOL.

We usually go in the summer (thats when I can get time off / leave) and our experience might be different than others. One of her big concerns before going was body image, which we're sure is pretty common. We talked a lot about it, before during and after. From her point of view, one of the best things about being naked is that you don't have clothes "pushing" on places and creating lumps or bumps that shouldn't be there. During the day, we like to spend our time on the beach relaxing. We've found that daytime is mostly about chatting, playing games, getting to know people and looking forward to the nightly activities. Evenings and nights is where things can get a little bit crazy. The hot tub can get a bit wild in the late afternoon before supper, and you will see a lot of things that might surprise you. That was the first place we saw anyone else having sex in real life (of course, we have watched porn), and the first place we had sex with others watching. It was one of the things we were worried about before going, and we talked a lot about it. It didn't bother us at all, in fact it was quite the opposite At night in the disco, we danced, chatted and just had a great time.

Another thing we were worried about was getting "propositioned" by others. It never really happened. People would ask what we were looking for, or why we were at Desire, or what we were "into". We were up front, told everyone we were just new and looking to see what it was like. We were never given a hard time or looked down on or ignored, people were just friendly.

All in all it was a great experience, and we're going back for our 4th trip this summer. Desire did open up our sexual boundaries, but it took a second visit Now, we can't say that we are not in the lifestyle anymore, we certainly are and we're having blast, but it took a few years to get there. We'd recommend going with out a doubt, even if its only once. The key is to talk to each other about your fears, concerns and expectations. The biggest thing to remember, is it's your vacation and to do what you enjoy. No one will judge you if you don't take off your clothes or have sex, thats the best thing we've found about Desire.

Have Fun!

SandL wrote:We were once in almost the exact same situation as you are right now. We had only ever been on one vacation (visiting family doesn't count - thats work - LOL). We were not in the lifestyle and we had never been to any sort of nudist resort or event. I'd have to say, you have nothing to worry about, and as long as you talk about your concerns with each other you'll have a great time. Our first trip, we booked through Air Canada Vacations (a very vanilla online travel agency). The booking included an airport to resort transfer, which at the time we didn't think was a big deal until we got to Mexico and we were put onto the short bus with 3 other families (with kids). We figured, OK, they'll drop us off last...nope...Desire was the closest, so they dropped us off first. There were no problems though, the kids were just fascinated by the alligators in the pond at the front of the resort.

We got there before noon, so our room wasn't ready until about 1500ish, so after check in we just wandered around the resort and had a few drinks. We didn't have any beachwear handy so we were just in "travelling clothes". She was naked within 15 mins after check in, for me, it took about an hour. I just felt out of place wearing shorts, and it was great to be naked. If you are anything like us though, and I'm making an assumption from your screen name, you prob don't get a lot of sun in Seattle, you should make sure to tan the "bits" before going. The last thing you want at Desire is a sunburn on the important parts. My biggest fear was running into someone that knew us, and sure enough, as we are both walking naked down the beach we heard someone calling our names from one of the beach beds. We almost had heart attacks...turns out it was just another couple from one of the Yahoo forums that we joined before going. We ended up sitting naked, drinking and chatting with them until our room was ready. The strange thing is, despite being naked, there wasn't really anything sexual about it. It seems like once clothes come off, people don't pretend to be something they are not. It was a really good introduction to Desire for us. There was just something about the atmosphere there, that by supper on the first night, we were already talking about when our second trip was going to be, not if, but when. LOL.

We usually go in the summer (thats when I can get time off / leave) and our experience might be different than others. One of her big concerns before going was body image, which we're sure is pretty common. We talked a lot about it, before during and after. From her point of view, one of the best things about being naked is that you don't have clothes "pushing" on places and creating lumps or bumps that shouldn't be there. During the day, we like to spend our time on the beach relaxing. We've found that daytime is mostly about chatting, playing games, getting to know people and looking forward to the nightly activities. Evenings and nights is where things can get a little bit crazy. The hot tub can get a bit wild in the late afternoon before supper, and you will see a lot of things that might surprise you. That was the first place we saw anyone else having sex in real life (of course, we have watched porn), and the first place we had sex with others watching. It was one of the things we were worried about before going, and we talked a lot about it. It didn't bother us at all, in fact it was quite the opposite At night in the disco, we danced, chatted and just had a great time.

Another thing we were worried about was getting "propositioned" by others. It never really happened. People would ask what we were looking for, or why we were at Desire, or what we were "into". We were up front, told everyone we were just new and looking to see what it was like. We were never given a hard time or looked down on or ignored, people were just friendly.

All in all it was a great experience, and we're going back for our 4th trip this summer. Desire did open up our sexual boundaries, but it took a second visit Now, we can't say that we are not in the lifestyle anymore, we certainly are and we're having blast, but it took a few years to get there. We'd recommend going with out a doubt, even if its only once. The key is to talk to each other about your fears, concerns and expectations. The biggest thing to remember, is it's your vacation and to do what you enjoy. No one will judge you if you don't take off your clothes or have sex, thats the best thing we've found about Desire.

Have Fun!

SandL you took the words right out of our mouths...

SandL you hit right on the head. That's the great thing about Desire is that no one makes judgment calls about others everyone is there to enjoy the fun and erotic vibe of the Resort. So we say to anyone thinking of going to Desire to just go and plan on having the time of your life without any type of pressure from other people. Just go without any plans and like SandL you will be planning your next trip before you check out from your first trip. Almost everyone that goes to Desire has the same feelings about Desire and they can't wait to go back( well there are always a few prudes that don't like anything). Just read through this site and you will see how much newbies love Desire.
Just a thought since I'm not working right now I wonder if I could be in their US Public relations person as much as I love the place and can't really say anything bad about it. Just a wishful thought.