Today is Monday....my b/f of a year and a half leave in exactly 3 days from now to go to Pearl for 6 days. Although we have been on shorter weekend type trips together (Vegas, skiing, Cali, etc) I am all of a sudden feeling a little bit anxious or getting a case of cold feet! I'm a generally pretty confident person and take on new things pretty easily. However, I have to admit my insecurities are maybe getting the best of me. Ugh, I figure I will just go ahead and list them all out there on this forum and face my fears so here they are:
My Body. I am 46 years old. Let's face it, I don't have the body of a 20 year old. Hell...even when I was a 20 year old I didn't have the body I wanted. Over the course of many years, growing older and wiser I have come to accept and love almost all of my body. I have had two beautiful children and well to be perfectly honest, the second one was 9lbs and did a lot of damage to my 5'2 frame. lol. Trust me, it was all worth it but I have the battle scars to prove it. About a year 1/2 ago after dropping 25 lbs and working out 5x a week for an entire year I underwent a 'Mommy Makeover'. This was a pretty extensive deal....a tummy tuck, breast implants (I opted to NOT do a lift even though the dr suggested it) and liposuction of my saddlebags. Although I really had no clue how tough the recovery would be...it was VERY MUCH worth it. I am so happy with my breasts (even though they sag a bit still) and my stomach looks like a 20 year olds...it's PERFECT. My lower body has always been my biggest issue. I was a gymnast (and every other sport) growing up so I have always had big thighs. I think they word kids use now is 'thick'. Ok, I have no problem with that..but it seems no matter what I do I still have some cellulite and dimples. I hate it. I will admit that when I'm working out 5-6x a week spinning and practically killing myself, they were looking a LOT better. But since then, I have fallen in love and well I haven't been as diligent in the gym as I used to be.
Being Naked. This kind of goes with the first although even if I was more confident in my body, I don't think I would be any more confident to walk around completely naked. Not to mention that hip to hip scar on my lower abdomen from the tummy tuck. The only person other than my immediate family to ever see this scar is my current boyfriend. I do believe I will have no problem going topless but this will essentially be a first for me and I can't help but also think that people will be judging my breasts. I know my b/f LOVES them but I think he is just under my love spell. lol.
PDS. We are an incredibly sexual couple. I love, love, love having sex with this man. We have had some amazing adventures as a couple already in our short time together (threesomes, etc). The one thing I have always wanted to do is to have sex in public and be watched by other couples. Up until about an hour ago...I was really looking forward to all of this. Now all of a sudden I am a little nervous about even that. What the heck is going on?
Other Stuff. There is a bunch of other random stuff I'm worried about such as the following... Am I bringing the right clothes. Are they sexy enough? (I'm not bringing super sexy, sheer stuff). Will people like us as a couple and want to engage in conversations with us (I sure hope so). Will there be some ridiculously in shape, beautiful women (and men) there? Will my b/f even like this place? Will I be able to relax and enjoy this much deserved vacation?
So there you have it. I hope it's just all nervous anticipation type stuff and once I get there and relax a bit that this will all go away. I'm sure a few cocktails wouldn't hurt.
I'm not really sure why I'm posting this other than to just get it out there and try and deal with it over the next few days. I'm definitely NOT an insecure or worry type person but I think this trip is so different because there are so many unknowns for me that it has me for a loop.
Any insights or comments would be greatly appreciated. Has anyone else been in this situation?
Thanks for reading.
Jennifer