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My wife and I have never been to a resort like this. We want to enjoy the sexual atmosphere with one another but do not want to go far as any swing. My question is what percentage of guests at the resort are like us. To clarify we want to have sex in front of people but not with anyone else.

My wife and I are in our 40's. What is the average age of the couples?

My wife and I want to be around all of the action. However my wife does not want unwanted advances. We both understand the atmosphere and that's why we are there, but don't want to be groped. Is that a worry?

I think you should spend some time browsing this forum. I think all your questions have been asked and answered before.

PS - I'm sure you will enjoy your trip.

I'm confused, just posting this but your profile says you arrive Jan 5th?

SLD wrote:My wife and I have never been to a resort like this. We want to enjoy the sexual atmosphere with one another but do not want to go far as any swing. My question is what percentage of guests at the resort are like us. To clarify we want to have sex in front of people but not with anyone else.

This likely greatly fluctuates based on the week but for our two weeks we estimate 50% lifestyle, 25% Swayers which means curious and may do some play in the right situation whether it be pda/soft/girl and 25% nudist. Again every week is different but that seems to align with manys posts on here.

SLD wrote:My wife and I are in our 40's. What is the average age of the couples?

Another item that greatly fluctuates depending on the week, even fluctuates during the week. Our experience was average of mid to upper 40s. But if course that doesn't mean there aren't 20's, 30's, 50's, 60's, 70's and so on

No worries, you will never be approached to do anything you are not comfortable with. The people at these types of resorts will be way more respectable than at any family resort, you would get hit on more at a family resort. You said you like being watched but, not involved with others, the sun beds at the hot tub is the place for that. Even in the hot tub, there may be activities taking place but no one will ever pressure you to do anything! It's the most relaxing sexy vacation ever! You can be as involved or not involved, totally up to you. And be prepared to be taken care of by an unbelievable stall, there is none better!
We had some of the same worries our first trip, they guickly went away. We tried going to other resorts after but, after Desire Pearl we were disapointed everywhere else. We just planned our fifth trip, we are not interested in going anywhere else!

Tahnks for answering some of these questions. We are considering coming in early June, not sure why it atumatically put our arrival date for January 5th.

SLD ...... I have sent you a PM! You will love Pearl!

SLD wrote:My wife and I have never been to a resort like this. We want to enjoy the sexual atmosphere with one another but do not want to go far as any swing. My question is what percentage of guests at the resort are like us. To clarify we want to have sex in front of people but not with anyone else.

Good question...maybe half...I'm sure it varies week to week, but the answer is "plenty" to where you won't find yourself alone or uncomfortable. I guess that's the big thing: most people are in their own zones and and little if anything makes people feel uncomfortable (the opposite is really the case), unless you're uncomfortable seeing naked bodies.

SLD wrote:My wife and I are in our 40's. What is the average age of the couples?

I would say you're in the average...with plenty of people older (50s-60s+ and fewer younger (30s and 20s).

Even if you WERE in the lifestyle, it would never be appropriate for anyone to just come up to you or your wife and cop a feel... it's just not done, and shouldn't be a concern of yours or your wife's. Plenty of folks there just to enjoy the CO aspect of the resort, or to perhaps experiment with the lifestyle for the first time.... so you will most definitely NOT be the only ones there that like to engage in a little PDA and PDS.... as long as you don't mind an audiene, you'll be fine. But if anyone joins in, uninvited, I feel they're out of bounds.

Sometimes it makes me sad...but no one has ever randomly groped me at Desire

We took newbie friends with us on our last trip...and if anything...they were let down that there was not more craziness. It was tamer than they had envisioned.

It depends on the week and if there are any groups going when you are there....check that out for sure...but we find the general age at Pearl to be 30s to 60s...all body shapes and sizes present...maybe a 30/30/40 mix of swingers/curious/nudists.

The vibe is very respectful! Someone might mention your wife has nice breasts...or ask if you are interested...but if the answer is no...no problem! If someone asks...take it as a compliment that you two are a hot couple...and move on...nothing is ever expected! Even if two hard core swinger couples met...nothing is ever expected...even then it is all about if all four people feel the vibe.

Don't worry...go and have a great time!

~Indy

I agree w Indy. Among the most accepting places. You maybe become increasingly comfortable, but u won't be uncomfortable. The only disagreement I have w Indy is abt football.