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My wife and I visited last November and for the first time. We where both very nervous but as said several times in this forum it was amazing how easy and relaxed you feel. Meeting incredible people and having fantastic conversation. It was unreal how we would talk openly about the lifestyle and what limits and experiences others had. The advice we got was invaluable.

The problem is my wife is nervous about returning. This will sound silly but the reason is she is embarrassed when she goes topless (only in the jacuzzi) because her breasts are small but her nipples are so big they really do have both sexes take notice to the point where she does not want all the attention. Her nipples are always erect and get up to over an inch in long. They are incredible !! She really feels uncomfortable wearing her top all day long at Desire but is also uncomfortable taking her top off . Overall pearl has addressed everything we want in a resort every box has been ticked to the positive we just need some advice on this topless issue. Appreciate all

Like much at Desire, my response is Wow and how intriguing! Any "looks" she gets really aren't too different than the "looks" many of us get. After a few moments, all of the nakedness and its intricacies just blends into one big, fun place for all. She should take any gazing as a compliment and proudly smile. Geez .... wish we were there when you are and we would say much to help her be comfortable. Mr. ..... you are a lucky man

I don't have nipples nearly as wonderful as your wife's, but mine got attention just the same, because mine are pierced.... I recall seeing one other woman there with pierced nipples, so it's not that common. I actually liked the extra attention it got me....I hope your wife understands the extra attention she's getting is all admiration and not at all from people not liking what they're seeing. I'm sure she noticed that there's no such thing as a "normal" pair. They're all different and all wonderful, same as a guy's package. Not sure there's anything that can be said to boost her confidence - would have thought the very accepting crowd at Pearl would have put her mind at ease forever.

I too have small breasts with extremely long nipples and my headlights are on all the time! I'm not sure I can explain why, but I was also nervous about my breasts when I started going topless/CO. Perhaps, because a lot of women are much better endowed with soft looking, rounded nipples that are glamorized in our society. Also, hard breasts are a normal reaction to getting aroused and having an O, so I was probably overly concerned with the sexual connotations of my nipples' constantly aroused appearance.
At non-lifestyle resorts, people do not breach the subject of PDS/PDA, arousal, orgasms, etc., so I was always a little self conscious about my hard and pointy nipples (even though my husband has always been wild about them). Perhaps I thought people might be thinking that I was trying to be overly provocative or attempting to solicit a sexual response. On our first trip to Desire last year, several women commented on how beautiful my breasts were. (one even belted out "Great Tits" as she passed me at the lounge bar) It boosted my confidence immensely, and since being sensual is respected and appreciated as natural at Desire, I lost my self-conscious attitude, not only toward my breasts but also toward PDS and began to embrace ALL the freedom that Desire has to offer to a romantic couple. On our second visit in January, I got more compliments on my breasts and one fun-loving woman even went to her room and got nipple jewelry for me to wear. What a hoot!
I'm not sure why your SO is still concerned, but people can sense when someone is self-conscious about their body, and I'm guessing that out of respect, people may refrain from any interaction that could possibly reinforce her fears. My suggestion is to just put them out there, be proud, and be confident that they are a part of who you are.
As an aside... I have seen more than one women at Desire who has had a mastectomy, and these women deserve the highest praise for their self-confidence and their beauty. It takes a very strong woman to take command of her body and her life and I am in awe of these beautiful women. Plus, I mentioned this to my husband, and he told me that he never noticed them, which just goes to prove that if you carry yourself with pride and confidence, that is what people will see.
Get naked and have fun! XL

Good point about the mastectomies. At our nudist pool club at home, there are several women that have had single or double mastectomies, or are in some stage or another of reconstruction. They are confident in their appearance, and like any human body, are beautiful to behold. Who doesn't like to hang out with survivors? Strong, women... all of them.

Wow...this is why we love Desire!! It is the people. Your responses to our very minor issue are thoughtful, helpful and respectful. Thank you so much for you thoughts they all make so much sense. I think our second trip will be much different as we now know this is a dream place for us to vacation and we know what to expect. Be confident and enjoy what we all have to show and allow our new friends to enjoy!! Makes me want to get on the next plane!! We are visiting very soon...you have all helped build the excitement ..Thank you!!