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I'm on a roll here with two post in one day. This will be short and sweet (the post that is ). Being a newbie to CO and one who, um to put in my wife's terms can be aroused by a stiff breeze, is concerned by all that I will see and it's effect. I might be in my mid fifties but I feel/act like a 20 year old thanks to my beautiful wife. Does this happen at DP? Is it the norm, occasionally happen or will I be looked at awkwardly? Can't hide emotions (you ladies have it made in this respect, maybe thinking about baseball would help? The only good thing the Mariners will do). Who knows, may not be an issue but thought I would just throw it out there as I have not found this on a previous post and is about the only thing I am concerned/nervous about. Some reassuring thoughts would be most helpful

My thoughts: First, the awkwardness of a stiffie depends on the context. I think it boils down to - If you are using it in some way, it's fine. If it's up for no apparent reason, it gives off a bit of a pervy vibe. Let me explain.

If you have wood while you are walking around the pool or standing in the line at the outdoor grill, you might get some strange looks. I don't think anyone would actually say anything - they may even high five you - but I think it might be a bit "odd".

However, if you were on a lounger at the pool and you wife was re-applying sunscreen to keep you from getting burned, or if you get out of the hot tub to go pee right after your wife was grinding up on you as you chat with another couple, you're fine. Certainly, if you are on a jacuzzi bed it's expected. Bottom line, as long as it couldn't be construed as pervy, you are fine.

Having said all that, frankly I don't think you are going to have the problem. It seems weird to say it, and no disrespect to the ladies, but you quickly get desensitized to all the naked women walking around. It's surprising how quickly it all just becomes normal. So *usually*, unless you are getting actively stimulated in some manner - involving touching or not - you aren't going to be getting erect. If you are getting stimulated, well that's the whole point right? It's not like people are denying why we are all there.

If it *does* become a problem for you though, there's an easy solution. Just drag your wife over to the hot tub and have her (or some other lady (or guy - no judgement here (but that's a different thread)) ) take care of it for you. Problem solved!

TandD,
Don't think it will be a problem, in fact at the begining am anticipating a little "Stage fright" but do think I will get used to it quickly. Around my wife is my main concern. Consider it opening night jitters and not knowing what to expect, had to throw this one out there. Just looking for some input on this from people who have been there, done that or not done that. I know why we are going there and being aroused will definitely happen just concerned on timing is all. How do you know unless you ask?? Like the solution idea BTW, no disrespect, but no guys please, no need for another post). Thanks, nicely posted TandD

I can assure you it wont be a problem. The only time I got aroused without knowing PDS was imminent was when I was by the jacuzzi while two georgous women were enjoying each other at the bar in the jacuzzi. It couldnt have been better timing for setting the stage for an impromptu BJ from the Mrs. The other poster is dead on. Though it is hard to believe that you quickly become desensitized to the sight of the naked beautiful women all around you, you really do. Also, no one will care if you get aroused unless you utilize your situation inappropriately.

Dogma,
Thanks, both you and previous poster have put me at ease. Seeing the two women at the bar would have definitely gotten any guy going (and probably most women?), no excuses there for sure This was my only remaining concern and now is behind me. As I have said, we will go with the flow and enjoy every minute down there. This forum should be mandatory for any first timer visiting DP. Cheers all!

Just don't pop a wood on the beach. You might really scare the clothed walkers that frequently pass by. As far as everywhere else, it most likely is not a problem to get a hard on; unless you are stroking it and banging it into someone's face (that is only acceptable if they requested that).

With all the sex you will be having... by hour 3 you will most likely have a harder time 'getting hard' then 'getting soft'.

THANKS, now I really can't wait to get there. NOT HELPING GOLDFISH1 !!!!!!!!!! LOL

I would have to agree with others who have posted replies to your concern. Day 1 and the initial unclothing may produce a "excitement" boner from the new experience and wonderful naked bodies. That will die down quickly and you will become more use to the environment. My two trips this year I never once saw a man sporting wood just standing by the pool or walking around. You will find you quickly get more focused on meeting great people and having conversations.

The jacuzzi will produce some excitement, simply stay under the water a little longer or rock it like a champ and take it to the bed! Last month things got pretty hot with all sorts of body shots (alcohol whipped cream & chocolate syrup) and I got pulled onto the ledge for the wife to take her turn. There was no hiding that one

I have made more than one trip from the pool past the restaurant to the bathroom with a huge boner; it all depends on who was teasing me, how badly, and how hot they were- simple nudity won't set me off at all. I never felt like anyone was particularly looking at (or away from) me. Desire is a place where an erection is no big deal, although that is generally not true at other nude and CO establishments.

One thing for sure if your wet from the pool heading to the bathroom with a Boner, you won't have it long when you enter. Its normally about 50 degrees in the bathroom!

That bathroom does no favors for any male at Pearl! It is freezing in there!! This may just be my wife, but sometimes I think the women like to tease us/work us up and watch us squirm trying to hide the excitement!

If my manhood elects to stand at full attention and salute, for whatever reason, may wife knows to reach over and commence a handjob. She does this while in mid-conversation with other people, ordering a drink, etc, without hardly a glance or taking notice. What a gal! Now it looks like my boner is because of my wife's loving ministrations, and not simply because I'm a horney old fool in a hottub full of naked ladies.vv

To this day, regardless of the location if I see my wife in a sexy outfit or completely naked it is "hard" to control. That said, at Desire once you get into conversations and socialize a bit, it will quickly adapt to the situation. If we are talking with another couple about work, kids, etc. it is very difficult to maintain any kind of erection unless there is direct stimulation. I recall watching a MFM in the hot tub, one thrusting at her from behind and the other with her mouth on his cock and because we were in a conversation with some friends of our, nothing was happening downstairs.

I would have never thought I could be in a hot tub with my naked wife and be able to get out, walk to the, as previously mentioned, freezing bathroom and back without wood. It just isn't an issue. Now if I was rubbing sunscreen on her, all bets are off. I haven't been able to master that one yet.

...and what is up with the freezing bathroom.

bbrz2 wrote:To this day, regardless of the location if I see my wife in a sexy outfit or completely naked it is "hard" to control.

Assuming that's her in your avatar, I can't blame you!

Saw many times, ladies love to see it.