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Are most of the costumes on theme nights R rated , X rated, or XXX rated? Wife wondering what to pack and whether XXX attire might attract unwelcome touching since we are not in the L/S.

She should dress as sexy as she wants to and know that the folks in the lifestyle are more respectful of boundaries than others are. You can support her by being daring too with your outfit which might encourage her to live beyond her normal limits knowing you support it and only have eyes for her.

Also no one should be handsy at all as the lifestyle rule is "no means no" and for us we go by "only yes means yes" so if someone does try to act without asking all she needs to do is say "no thanks" and or tell you or anyone else. Everyone there wants to feel safe to express their sexy limits without projecting any sense of offering sexual availability to strangers and have them assume they can reach out without asking.

You will find almost everyone is friendly, kind and supportive of your daring to be sexy beyond normal limits but they are also protective of all others putting it out there so be sure to be friendly around the pool & make friends with a bunch of these folks. If it comes up you can let them know your limits and always drift their way later if you feel nervous and need support.

Mostly just be there for each other & those in the know about the lifestyle will recognize a fun & sexy couple who are outside the lifestyle & will still probably want to chat & be friendly with you two.

Have a great holiday.

B & K