Dissapointed but wanting to return

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Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Suppadoo » Sun Oct 29, 2017 10:10 pm

My wife and I were at Pearl in Oct. 2016 and the vibe was not what we were hoping. We loved the resort, but the crowd was very reserved. Pretty much just standing around talking in the Jacuzzi, never anything happening there. Playroom completely empty. We aren't into the LS, but are nudists and exhibitionists, and were let down by the experience. We would like to try RM in the early summer 2018, and was wondering if there is a "best" time to be there, to guarantee more population, and less inhibited crowd? Could it have been the days of the week we were there? We were there Mon-Thurs. last time, and I'm thinking of doing 5 nights this time, and including Fri and Sat. Thanks for any advice!

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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby TandD » Mon Oct 30, 2017 8:36 am

Suppadoo wrote:My wife and I were at Pearl in Oct. 2016 and the vibe was not what we were hoping. We loved the resort, but the crowd was very reserved. Pretty much just standing around talking in the Jacuzzi, never anything happening there. Playroom completely empty. We aren't into the LS, but are nudists and exhibitionists, and were let down by the experience.


Hmm, most people (particularly nudists) LIKE "standing around talking (with naked people) in the Jacuzzi".

Curious, if you are nudists and exhibitionists, what did you want other people to be doing that you didn't find? If you were looking for an atmosphere to spark your exhibitionism, I think the general advice around here is if nothing is happening, make something happen by starting it yourself. Oftentimes, I think many people are just waiting for someone to get the ball rolling (like it sounds like you were). Do a body shot on your wife, get a blow job on the center island, whatever.

I suppose it's possible that it was just a "down week" but it's hard to believe. On all of our trips there has always been *something* happening at the Jacuzzi.

RM seems to considered slightly more "active" I guess so maybe that would be a good option for you.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby eddieandjojo » Mon Oct 30, 2017 10:02 am

Agree 100% with TandD, can't tell you how many times we got the party started at Pearl AND RM. From 0 to 60 in no time flat!
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Dani'stoy » Mon Oct 30, 2017 10:30 am

We were at Pearl October 16 through 22nd and it was full on crazy! The only thing missing were the barn animals! :)
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby SeaSandPool » Mon Oct 30, 2017 11:05 am

Just wondering if Suppadoo would find more variation in the time of day than the day of the week or the season of the year.
Supppadoo, what time of day did you visit the jacuzzi?

For the veterans out there, what differences have you experienced in terms of the time of day?
Morning vs. early afternoon vs. 4-6pm pre-dinner vs. dinner time vs. 11pm-2am post-disco?

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1. The one time we were there, we mainly hit the 4-6pm slot, and it varied a lot from day to day as different people checked in and checked out of the resort. In general, friends who went post-disco seemed to have a livelier time of it.
2. *-:) One day a fun couple let loose a bag full of 50 ping pong balls with instructions written on them like "give a compliment" and "rub boobs" and "give a kiss" and "kiss a nipple" and "grant a wish" and people would randomly pick one up and either toss it or give it to the person of their choice --- it worked for LS and, to a lesser extent, for non-LS couples. That definitely broke the ice and got things going and a few of us out of our shells. The only trick was convincing my wife to let go of her hoard of ping-pong balls when the couple was trying to collect them to leave :!: I'm sure you can think of your own favorites to write and spice up your next visit.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby rykerw1701 » Mon Oct 30, 2017 2:36 pm

Our experience is that Thursday-Sunday are the most active days at the resort, with fewer people just coming in or headed out. As for the hot tub, the later hours post disco usually have the most drunken debauchery, while the late afternoon is more hit and miss. And I say "drunken debauchery" in the most positive of ways.

The crowd does vary a bit, but as was alluded to before, "if you don't like what people are saying, change the conversation" meaning get things going yourselves. We went into the empty playroom one time only to realize three other couples were in it with us within 10 minutes.

Great idea with those ping pong balls. I'm sure the staff hated it, but I may just have to borrow that one next time down there.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Suppadoo » Mon Oct 30, 2017 4:29 pm

Thanks for the responses. Our first day we tried to get things going at the jacuzzi by using a day bed for some pda, but that didn't help change the vibe of the crowd. I think we were a little put off after that and felt kind of awkward and discouraged. Maybe we just got unlucky. I think we will try for at least 5 nights this time, with Fri and Sat in the mix.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Explorer79 » Mon Oct 30, 2017 9:24 pm

Suppadoo wrote:Thanks for the responses. Our first day we tried to get things going at the jacuzzi by using a day bed for some pda, but that didn't help change the vibe of the crowd. I think we were a little put off after that and felt kind of awkward and discouraged. Maybe we just got unlucky. I think we will try for at least 5 nights this time, with Fri and Sat in the mix.


I'm curious, what was the intended/expected outcome? As nudists/exhibitionists was the issue that no one watched? Or no one noticed at all? Or 4 people watched but you would rather have a bigger audience? Or that your actions didn't spawn the same in others? Or...? I'm just trying to gauge exactly what it is you are after before commenting more specifically.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Draguin » Wed Nov 08, 2017 7:57 am

I wanted to jump in because I've noticed the same thing, and I think it may have more to do with the nature of this forum than with Desire itself. We've been to Desire 3 times (RM & Pearl), and have thoroughly loved the trips. However, each trip was tinted with a bit of disappointment based on what we always read here. The trips are great for what they are, but they don't live up to the forum's expectations, and it can be easy for people reading the forums to be disappointed on their first trip. Keep in mind, the members of this forum are a minority of the people at Desire, and the people who regularly post here are an even smaller sub-segment of those.

I believe there is a vocal minority (in a great way) of forum members who regularly bring up the same stories (i.e. ping pong game, body shots, find your spouse blindfolded, etc), which happened to occur on their trip and are great memorable events for those people. I've found that this is not the standard at Desire. In three trips, we've seen a couple single body shots (no groups congregating and passing liquor around), and zero organized hot tub games. PDA/PDS ebbs and flows depending on timing and the people you're sharing the resort with. There have been days we've spent hours at the hot tub chatting with naked people and seen nothing more than a hug or cuddle. It all depends on the atmosphere and people around you.

Comments about taking the lead if you'd like ring true. If you're an instigator and make efforts to get the ball rolling, you'll probably find willing participants (we certainly would be, but haven't been approached). Desire always has potential, but someone has to get started. Anytime we've started PDS on our own, others have joined in on beds around us. We love Desire and have settled on making Desire exactly what WE want it to be while we're there. We're not instigators or party starters, but we're not going to be disappointed by a lack of activity from others. Desire is what you make it, you can't rely on others to fulfill your hopes and dreams.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby eddieandjojo » Wed Nov 08, 2017 8:13 am

Draguin wrote: Desire is what you make it, you can't rely on others to fulfill your hopes and dreams.

I singled out this quote as I feel it's the most critical, after many trips we realize it's your vacation, make it what you want it to be, enjoy time with your partner and the rest will fall into place. We have started the party many times and people will truly follow, other times we are happy to sit back and watch it unfold.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Explorer79 » Wed Nov 08, 2017 1:12 pm

Draguin, I think your take is spot on, 100% agree. All these wild and crazy things can and do happen, the environment is ripe for it but if it just so happens no one is there to get the ball rolling then it can also amount to just a naked cocktail party. Still great fun but if it's debaucherous fun you are after you may just have to be your own advocate.
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby thegr8dane » Thu Nov 09, 2017 9:41 pm

With our admitted very limited experience (we had our first trip to DP in April), I think I can support what most everyone is saying - it all depends on who happens to be there when you are there.

Mrs Roberts and I are not LS people, but enjoy the environment. I only mention that to point out that we weren't necessarily seeking areas of action (we were the quiet end of the pool people). However, the week we were there, there was not a single night where the Play Room wasn't being used. Sometimes only by one couple - other times it was full. The Hot Tub was similar. Every night after the disco, all of the beds were full of couples enjoying themselves - and many times we walked by during the day to find a couple taking advantage of one of the beds and the "quiet" of the daytime. When I read posts about other weeks with no or very limited activity, they don't sound anything like the experience we had. Hence the conclusion that every week must be different.

But above all - go and do the things you want to do! Others will likely appreciate them. For us, dressing up for the theme nights was our thing - so we went all out on that :)
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby art lovers » Fri Nov 10, 2017 12:26 am

Yeah! for dressing up for the theme nights... it's a big part of the fun for us and nice for the entertainment staff, after a day of hard work, to see the guests "get into it" a bit!
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby Kycouple78 » Fri Nov 10, 2017 8:43 pm

Dani'stoy wrote:We were at Pearl October 16 through 22nd and it was full on crazy! The only thing missing were the barn animals! :)

We were there those exact same days! It was like a porn shoot wasn't it? Haha. On a funny note, we were there as well in October 2016 and it was exactly how the OP described. Very tame. It's just luck of the draw
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Re: Dissapointed but wanting to return

Postby animal hats » Sun Nov 12, 2017 9:40 am

eddieandjojo wrote:
Draguin wrote: Desire is what you make it, you can't rely on others to fulfill your hopes and dreams.

I singled out this quote as I feel it's the most critical, after many trips we realize it's your vacation, make it what you want it to be, enjoy time with your partner and the rest will fall into place. We have started the party many times and people will truly follow, other times we are happy to sit back and watch it unfold.

:L very will said! Just returned,enjoyed much needed time with my wife,and the rest just happened without trying to plan what was going to happen next!
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