Hi folks - my wife Mrs. Diamond and I are newbies who decided to come to Desire Pearl next summer to celebrate our 25th anniversary. We feel like we have a strong, intimate bond built on passion, sensuality, and respect. We are not in The Lifestyle and have never stayed at a place like Desire before. We do have a strong and passionate, monogamous sex life, and are looking to build on that.
We've been really touched by all the positivity about relationships, respect for boundaries, and the "no judgment" and "no means no" perspectives we've read throughout this forum. We're looking forward to experiencing that firsthand and meeting some great people of multiple perspectives in a beautiful place. To be frank, we are also both really titillated by the whole thing - we are MONTHS away and can barely keep our hands, lips, tongues, etc. off each other. As many of you have attested, the very idea of going to Desire has opened up conversations and a level of honesty that we didn't realize we were missing - and we're just scratching the surface here.
With all of that, we have some questions for this forum and would appreciate hearing some specific accounts from people who are or were in a similar place as we are. We feel like we have a strong partnership and are communicating well. There are some things that are both, frankly, scary to us and also, if we are being honest, very exciting. Here are some of our questions for other couples (either one or both of you):
"Deep Thoughts" questions:
1. Did you ever feel like things quickly got away from you or got past an agreed-upon boundary? I could see this happening to us in the hot tub or in some of the (really fun-sounding) competitive activities (like the Human Sundae).
2. Did you ever wake up in the morning with regret? We can imagine the lines blurring with alcohol, hot costumes and beautiful people, etc. If you don't mind sharing, what did you regret and how did you talk it through?
3. How did you handle it if one of your "boundaries" changed upon actually being at the resort? Either if you realized you didn't want something you initially expected to like, or if on reflection you really wanted to cross a boundary that you had both agreed was not going to happen?
4. How did you prevent crossing an agreed upon boundary (without looking like a stick in the mud) when there are opportunities abounding?
Questions about the resort:
5. Do you recommend taking a trip to the other resort for an evening (in this case RM) to check it out? The agency says that's doable for a $150 fee. Worth it?
6. We'd love to PM with someone who's got experience with the in-room strippers (female, male, and couple) - we'd like to understand more details to know what we're getting into there.
7. Would love to hear experiences with the gazebo dinner - very interested in this if it's the new version of the Terrace of Passion.
Thanks in advance for your time and responses! Please feel free to reply here or PM if more detailed.
Best,
Mr. and Mrs. Diamond