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Posted: **Wed Jan 31, 2018 9:30 am**

We have been to DP 4 times and are going again soon. Although almost by happenstance we have met couples and played, how have others sorted out who plays and who doesn’t ? Our experience is there are usually groups that know each other that can be intimidating to talk to, other solo couples that may or may not, and nudists who clearly do not. Do you just ask another couple after you’ve been talking ? Like, ‘hey we like you guys, do you play ?’ Just curious what other couple have experienced

Posted: **Thu Feb 01, 2018 5:46 pm**

Seveniron2012 wrote:We have been to DP 4 times and are going again soon. Although almost by happenstance we have met couples and played, how have others sorted out who plays and who doesn’t ? Our experience is there are usually groups that know each other that can be intimidating to talk to, other solo couples that may or may not, and nudists who clearly do not. Do you just ask another couple after you’ve been talking ? Like, ‘hey we like you guys, do you play ?’ Just curious what other couple have experienced

We have only been twice. The first trip we werent in the LS so we were on the other end of this question and it was fine. People would ask or bring up the question of what our situation was and it was never offensive or awkward. Second trip we were starting in the LS but we were pretty much up for anything from the beginning. We would bring it up to people and try to do it as a part of normal conversations and it was pretty easy and never awkward either. At least we thought so. No one was offended anyway. I think the best question to ask that is totally relevant for every desire couple, as well as a question that provides very interesting answers is "So what made you decide to vacation at Pearl". The answer to that will usually let you know what they are about. If you still cant figure it out, follow up with just asking them if they are in the LS and they are you into.

Posted: **Sat Feb 03, 2018 5:09 pm**

Breakthrough wrote:We go to Desire primarily to meet people and make friends. The folks that choose Desire for their hard-earned time off and money are inherently different, and we get along with the average “Desireite” in a totally different way than the average vanilla person. We get to know folks, then however that progresses, it does. We were 100% vanilla walking in to our first trip. On the first day we met an amazing couple and spent all day laughing and talking in the pool. By the time the late-night jacuzzi was a thing it was just perfectly natural for it to transition to something more... even though we’d never done anything like that before. That same scenario as played out for us over and over, sometimes with the other couple having been the vanilla ones.

All of that is to say that in our experience, it doesn’t really matter. If you meet and get to know a couple, it’ll just sorta go where it goes. If they’re hard-line “vanilla nudists” it just naturally won’t progress any further.

Now, if You’re just looking to hook up as much as possible (which we’re totally not judging AT ALL - everyone should enjoy Desire however is most rewarding to them), then this approach probably won’t work. If you’re after lots of good, hot, sex as much as possible, this slow-play will hamstring you. In that case then yeah, we’d say just straight up ask. No one at a place like Desire will be offended that you did

Well said!

Posted: **Mon Mar 26, 2018 7:12 am**

We wear a black ring on our right hand. We wish the wrist bands were colored as not all wear a black ring. We do ask nicely with no pressure at all.

Posted: **Tue Mar 27, 2018 8:34 am**

BubbaCal wrote:We wear a black ring on our right hand. We wish the wrist bands were colored as not all wear a black ring. We do ask nicely with no pressure at all.

If it were only that easy...

Last trip to Pearl we saw a couple in the pool and they both had black rings on. We started talking with them and then asked how long they had been in the lifestyle. A complete dazed look came across their faces and said they were not in the LS. Then they asked us why did we think they were. We told them about the black rings. They had no idea; they wore them cause they thought they were cool. Next day, different color of rings on for both of them.

We found the best way is to approach the subject after some conversation and ask them what they like about Desire or if they have been on lifestyle cruises or events. The answer to that will lead the direction for future discussion.

Posted: **Tue Mar 27, 2018 11:23 am**

Simple: “Are you two in the lifestyle?”
It is a natural part of almost every first conversation we have with a couple we meet for the first time, sometimes asked by us, sometimes by them.

Posted: **Sun Apr 01, 2018 12:40 pm**

2naked wrote:Simple: “Are you two in the lifestyle?”
It is a natural part of almost every first conversation we have with a couple we meet for the first time, sometimes asked by us, sometimes by them.

+1

We usually ask "Sooo what brings you to Desire?"

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