Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

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Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

Postby SecretSmileToday » Sun Sep 08, 2019 4:37 pm

Three weeks after returning from six nights at Desire Pearl, we’re still floating on air. Since other trip reports were helpful for us, we wanted to pay it forward.

We got to Desire on a Saturday: this was our second trip. The first, part of a podcast group (thanks Mr and Mrs Jones from We Gotta Thing!), was a fantastic first experience. This time we were excited to try it “on our own” with less scheduled time/ expectations. USA Transfers (we booked here through the link in the Forums) was professional and courteous. United and Volaris were... affordable, anyway.

We arrived just in time to stow our suitcases and go to dinner at Aphrodite. That night it was a little unclear if the theme was “Pineapples” or “red carpet.” Whatever, we rocked our matching pineapple printed outfits and called it good. We mistakenly thought that might be the most eye catching thing we did this trip. Dinner was yummy, dancing was fun as always (if you like to dance even a little, Charlie, Kia and the other entertainment staff are a ton of fun to dance with in the lobby before the show; we learned a few Bachata steps). As usual we sat at the front for the show: the venue is small and we like the good seats. Foreshadowing... Two hours into our trip and all our real life worries were gone. We decided to finish our strategy of "jumping into the deep end" right away by trying out one of the beds next to the hot tub. We went early, so almost no audience, but a good way to finish getting into the flow of Desire.

Sunday we started the morning slow, enjoyed a late breakfast, relaxed in our room together (we got a second floor master suite on the far edge of the resort, near the quiet end of the pool; everything in Desire is pretty close together). We wandered down to the pool in time to get recruited by the playmakers for something called “Kinky Daring Darts.” It managed to be both sexy and silly, and was far more public sexy fun than we are used to, but we had a great time. The Playmakers were encouraging but not overly pushy: we didn't know a poolside blow job was on our bucket list, but it's been crossed off now! Mr. SecretSmileToday was a bit nervous, but felt much better when several sexy couples said hi and said they'd enjoyed the show. As conversational openers go, it was effective. That night's theme was Gods and Goddesses. Ms. SecretSmileToday had beautiful angel wings, but we forgot to bring Mr. SecretSmileToday's matching devil horns. It was OK, not many were looking at him anyway, standing next to an angel! We met several lovely couples and while we didn't play with anyone but each other, all the flirting and friendship sent our sex drives to eleven.

Monday we went out to dinner at Pearl with a lovely couple. On our first trip to Desire an amazingly sexy couple invited us out (we missed you this time, K & M!), and we decided to steal a page from their book. We felt that sudden deep connection we're starting to thing of as a 'Desire thing,' and even though they very graciously turned down our invitation to play, we're very glad we got to share the fun conversation and dinner. That night's theme was "Mysterious Masquerade," which was fun and sexy; his cape was too warm for the disco, but at Desire no one minds if you take your clothes off sooner than later, so no harm done. The performers brought a very attractive and surprised-looking guest up on stage, giving her all sorts of sexy attention and giving us a heck of a show. She looked shocked but happy. More foreshadowing... We finished our night with conversation and flirting in the hot tub.

Tuesday we learned to Scuba Dive! Alejandra from the dive shop was patient and fantastic- and next time we’ll remember to take Dramamine for the boat ride out. A storm hit that afternoon so we hid in our rooms and got over the seasickness. That night was "Master and Mistresses" night, which we'd both been looking forward to. We aren't particularly experienced in the BDSM scene, but Desire is a great place to try things out. We dressed a bit to the theme, and were around median for the crowd. As usual, there was a large variety: some in full Dom/me or Sub gear, some in resort-casual and everything in between. We took our favorite seats next to the dance floor.

We'd wondered how the floor show would ramp up to more risque/ themed for Masters and Mistresses night. The dancers were extremely sexy (as usual, honestly), but Mr. SecretSmileToday got surprisingly much eye contact from the mouth watering pole dancer. The mystery was resolved when two of the female dancers grabbed his hands and pulled him up on the stage, and one of the male dancers sat in Ms. SecretSmileToday's lap and gave her a show of her own. While she was distracted, the leather-and-lace clad dancers were giving Mr. SecretSmileToday the show of his life. They stood him up, lots of touching and clear communication but very few words, pulled his pants off (maybe he should have worn underwear? oh well...) and sat him down for a very public and evocative lap dance scene. Then they bent him over in front of the crowd and gave him a rapid light spanking and sent him back to his flushed and smiling wife (in the meantime the male dancer had encouraged her to have a good feel of some fabulous musculature). Things we didn't even know were on our bucket list!

Later that night, perhaps emboldened by the participatory show, another guest gave him a (flogging?) with a crop hard enough to leave a welt. Protip: if you're going to give someone a welt, be sure to make that possibility clear in advance! Interesting to try once, but probably won't repeat the crop and welt. We will definitely repeat sitting at the front every time we visit Desire!

Wednesday we got several cheerful comments from other guests about the previous night's show, which was another good icebreaker. By Wednesday we notice that the bartenders several times have our preferred drinks poured before we even order, as we walk up to the bar. We're starting to realize we eventually have to go back to real life, but decided not to worry about it.

Our biggest heartbreak of the trip was missing the Art of Touch workshop (Lauren and Richard weren't there for August 2019), so we decided to try the sensual massaage offered at the spa. We seriously considered the Erotic massage instead (the prices were about the same) but decided we'd stop a bit short of that (for the sensual they get you revved up with a lot of touching, then leave you to make your own happy ending and enjoy the jacuzzi bath and strawberries & champagne; for the erotic, they stay with you and give you more direct touching and encouragement. Not sure how varied others' experiences were, or how much it relied on their read of the couple involved, but our massage went further than we expected, transitioning from "sensual" to "erotic" including the surprisingly sexy (Ms. SecretSmileToday really enjoyed it when her masseur's hard cock just "happened" to brush against her hand, and Mr. SecretSmileToday eventually got charged enough from all the attention to his hot spots to get out of his head about the whole experience) to the somewhat awkward (eventually they pushed our massage tables together and encouraged us to start having sex. The masseur continuing to massage her breasts while we were fucking- hot for us. The masseuse shoving his butt to facilitate his thrusting- not hot for us). We let them know we could finish on our own and they left. All things considered, very glad we tried it but might not pay for the experience again. Instead next time we'll bring massage oil and offer a reenactment for other couples, free of charge, in the jacuzzi beds- look us up!

Thursday was our last full day at Desire. We didn't participate in the pool games but cheered others, ate our favorite food, bought an expensive bottle of wine with dinner. The wine was OK, but probably not a purchase we'll repeat next time (we're pretty lowbrow wine drinkers, and like their house white just fine). We went out dancing again, enjoyed the show, and put on a show of our own at the hot tub bed. This time we waited long enogh to have an appreciative audience. We like the 360 degreees of sexy around the edge when we're in the hot tub ourselves, so always like to pay it forward when we can!

Friday morning we got up early so we could have one last breakfast at Aphrodite, enjoyed staring out at the Caribbean one last time. Our transfer and trip back were uneventful except for reminiscing. If there were anything like Pearl in our time zone we'd go more often- but it's worth the travel, because there's nowhere we've found quite like it.

For those still reading or skipping to the bottom, a few pieces of advice you didn't ask for:

For everyone, this place can be magical. The staff are genuinely kind and it's a wonderful place to take a break from reality. Dance every night, eat your favorite foods, talk to the other guests and the entertainment staff. It's worth it, and you'll love it even more if you lean in a bit.

For us, this place is much, much more fun because we volunteer for nearly everything. We love having a calm hangout at the quiet end of the pool, and having the choice to wander over to the games and make fools and/or rockstars of ourselves. This is really, really great for us, but know that no one will make you lean in, and you can be one of the sexy couples heckling us from the pool or sunning quietly while watching out of the corner of your eye, and you'll still have a great time. Maybe not quite as great a time as we'll be having, but a great time. Our advice is to do what works for you. Not everyone is into the lifestyle stuff, and that's fine (we were monogamous this trip, and had a fantastic, lifelong-memories time). Not everyone wants to dance in public. We may have downplayed the massage too much: others on the forum have said, and we agree, that it might be a heck of an experiment if you're curious to dip your toes in those waters but not quite up to jacuzzi bed sex with new friends. You do you, and we'll cheer for you!

Thanks for reading. We (especially Mr. SecretSmileToday) are more than happy to share more if you like- feel free to message us here or on other sites at the same username.
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Re: Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

Postby TandD » Mon Sep 09, 2019 9:46 am

Great report - glad you had fun!
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Re: Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

Postby Dani'stoy » Tue Sep 17, 2019 7:56 pm

Great report. It's fun to read about other people's sexy good times at Desire - a place like no other! We're heading back (trip#3) for our honeymoon so that might put an interesting twist on the week. Here's to hoping so!
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Re: Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

Postby SecretSmileToday » Wed Sep 18, 2019 1:46 am

Dani'stoy wrote:Great report. It's fun to read about other people's sexy good times at Desire - a place like no other! We're heading back (trip#3) for our honeymoon so that might put an interesting twist on the week. Here's to hoping so!

Definitely! Hope your trip is as good as ours was!
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Re: Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

Postby art lovers » Wed Sep 18, 2019 9:37 pm

Thank you SecretSmileToday for a great detailed report on your second Desire experience. Particularly noteworthy is the fact that you can convey your experiences on a personal level without a sense of boasting or vanity. Of particular note is your last paragraph. Acceptance and an inclusive atmosphere of all the couples, be they in the lifestyle or not, as well as a no pressure vibe is ironically crucial to keeping the magic alive. If only the resort management de-pressurized the membership sales ambush and de-stratified guest treatment the place would be perfect!
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Re: Second trip to Desire Pearl, August 2019

Postby SecretSmileToday » Fri Sep 20, 2019 10:00 am

art lovers wrote:Thank you SecretSmileToday for a great detailed report on your second Desire experience. Particularly noteworthy is the fact that you can convey your experiences on a personal level without a sense of boasting or vanity. Of particular note is your last paragraph. Acceptance and an inclusive atmosphere of all the couples, be they in the lifestyle or not, as well as a no pressure vibe is ironically crucial to keeping the magic alive. If only the resort management de-pressurized the membership sales ambush and de-stratified guest treatment the place would be perfect!


Thanks Art Lovers! We fell for the upsell but didn’t mind the pitch at all, but maybe one of those things- if you say yes right away you don’t know that someone would be pushy if you said no. Sorry to hear it- that sucks.

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