F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

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F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby InItTogether » Thu Feb 08, 2018 1:46 am

Well we had the rollercoaster ride of emotions before we packed, before we got on the plane, before we got to the resort and before we went to our first dress up night...what a WASTE of time worrying about NOTHING! We had NEVER been to a nudist resort, let alone a swingers resort, well let us tell you, we are converted forever!

We loved every minute of it! We spent months reading the forums before we embarked on our journey to build up our confidence and really to get a sense that we were not alone in our vanilla ways. I had psyched myself up for months that i would "drop my gear" the moment i got to the pool on they first day.... i wanted to surprise my husband with my 'wild' ways... well I DID IT! And was he surprised! LOL! It took him a few days to join in with being totally naked, i think he was afraid he would get wood in the pool, or worse get shrinkage in the pool, so he played it cool for a bit. When he finally got in the commando spirit, there was no turning back! Keep in mind we had NEVER been nudists before! There were so many ages and body types that it was really not a problem settling into the freedom of it.

The dress up or theme nights were an absolute BLAST, I totally encourage both husband and wife to embrace the experience and wear the theme night outfits. We had such fun picking them out before we even left home!

Before we left home we lived the life of a happily monogamous couple. Our kids have grown up and left home, i wouldn't say we were bored with each other at all, we just were open to new experiences as long as they were safe and we were together. Hence, our user name InItTogether. While we fully embraced the nudist aspect of the resort, we only dabbled in the 'lifestyle' . We had a bit of fun with a few couples in the hot-tub, but we made sure to keep our boundaries in check and watched for clues from each other that we were saying within those boundaries. Another thing we have discovered is that we not only love being nude but we each really get off on seeing each other walk around the pool deck or swish up to the swim up bar. Having other people look lustfully or admiringly at your partner is a real turn on.

We are home now and our nightly pillow talk, daily texts at work and dinner talk have all gone back to the fact that we both can't wait to get back to Desire! We did live our week there to the fullest, we participated in every theme night, enjoyed the shows, danced until our feet hurt and then ended the night in the hot tub until 3 o4 a.m. .... we did this EVERY NIGHT!! We have NEVER danced every night on any vacation EVER!!! The atmosphere led us to enjoy each other physically every single day as well... very nice.

We were so impressed with the numerous amazing couples we met here! We felt like everyone we met was respectful to the fact that we were new and just getting our feet wet in the 'lifestyle' BTW, we went in January which is ISM.... international swingers month....OMG!!! How totally hilarious and intimidating that we accidentally chose that month to 'dive in'! LOL!!

We live life with the understanding and belief that we don't know how long we have on this planet, so we want to live life to its fullest with no regrets! We encourage all newbies to dive in and live it, no regrets, but you MUST TALK, if you have a feeling good or bad, talk about it, don't let it fester and do you in, TALK, LOVE , LIVE .... DESIRE brought out the best in us and has continued to do this every day since we have been back... hope the feeling lasts until we go there again :D
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby Explorer79 » Thu Feb 08, 2018 2:33 am

Sounds like you fully embraced the experience, nice. You're officially addicted now so, when you going back? :mrgreen:

In retrospect how different was it in reality than what you had imagined in all the months leading up (for us it was way different and even better that what we had thought it would be).
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby klak » Thu Feb 08, 2018 7:43 am

InItTogether wrote:While we fully embraced the nudist aspect of the resort, we only dabbled in the 'lifestyle' . We had a bit of fun with a few couples in the hot-tub, but we made sure to keep our boundaries in check and watched for clues from each other that we were saying within those boundaries. Another thing we have discovered is that we not only love being nude but we each really get off on seeing each other walk around the pool deck or swish up to the swim up bar. Having other people look lustfully or admiringly at your partner is a real turn on.

Great review! Thanks for sharing. You sound very much like us in almost every way other than only half of our kiddos are out of the house (getting close though) and I (he) will be the one to embrace the commando in 5 minutes. She may take a few more (or tequila shots). I do have a few questions though.

1. The quote above...can you elaborate on "dabble a little?" If you'd rather message me, that'd be good. We aren't in LS and I've talked to her about if playfulness comes to her, I'm good with her playing but no intercourse. She's been silent on things of that matter which is fine with me but I'm real curious about the experience of first timers dabbling in soft swap.

2. Did your husband participate in theme nights?

3. Single best bit of advice for a newbie?

4. Favorite thing about the trip looking back?

5. What changed in your mind about it all from the minute you left home until the minute you left the resort?

6. What will you do differently on your second trip?

Thank you again for the excellent review. We're in the review studying mode now. Klak
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby yoyo » Thu Feb 08, 2018 3:38 pm

Know one can describe Desire.....you have to go and live Desire to understand what desire is all about and the great experience Desire offers.

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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby TandD » Thu Feb 08, 2018 7:21 pm

I love reading gushingly glowing trip reports from newbies who were hesitant and then realized that they were all worked up over nothing. It validates what we all tell them.

Glad you enjoyed your trip and thanks for posting about it.

Cheers!
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby Explorer79 » Thu Feb 08, 2018 7:42 pm

yoyo wrote:Know one can describe Desire.....you have to go and live Desire to understand what desire is all about and the great experience Desire offers.

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I think it was the Jones' who said in their podcast something along the lines of "If you've never been to Desire before no explanation is possible. If you've been to Desire before no explanation is necessary".
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby Luv2bnude » Fri Feb 09, 2018 11:06 am

klak wrote:
InItTogether wrote:While we fully embraced the nudist aspect of the resort, we only dabbled in the 'lifestyle' . We had a bit of fun with a few couples in the hot-tub, but we made sure to keep our boundaries in check and watched for clues from each other that we were saying within those boundaries. Another thing we have discovered is that we not only love being nude but we each really get off on seeing each other walk around the pool deck or swish up to the swim up bar. Having other people look lustfully or admiringly at your partner is a real turn on.

Great review! Thanks for sharing. You sound very much like us in almost every way other than only half of our kiddos are out of the house (getting close though) and I (he) will be the one to embrace the commando in 5 minutes. She may take a few more (or tequila shots). I do have a few questions though.

1. The quote above...can you elaborate on "dabble a little?" If you'd rather message me, that'd be good. We aren't in LS and I've talked to her about if playfulness comes to her, I'm good with her playing but no intercourse. She's been silent on things of that matter which is fine with me but I'm real curious about the experience of first timers dabbling in soft swap.

2. Did your husband participate in theme nights?

3. Single best bit of advice for a newbie?

4. Favorite thing about the trip looking back?

5. What changed in your mind about it all from the minute you left home until the minute you left the resort?

6. What will you do differently on your second trip?

Thank you again for the excellent review. We're in the review studying mode now. Klak


We too just returned from our first trip—I will post a trip report soon but wanted to share my thoughts on your questions. We too were hot and cold about going—we even cancelled our first reservation last year. We are not in the LS nor have any interest. We simply wanted quality time with each other around fun sexy people. My wife literally went from there is no way we are going to the hot tub—don’t want to see PDA to sex
3 nights in the play room!!!. My best advice for you: Although I encourage and did read everything to be prepared it can take you over the top especially if you are not LS. There are extremes that push your imagination over the top which is fine but only if your prepared for it. We had just 1 rule: She is in charge and whatever she says goes—PERIOD. This made my wife feel safer and free knowing that nothing would come her way that she did not want. PS. We hit the jacuzzi 5 minutes after getting to the resort—her call!! Relax and enjoy each other—it was AWESOME.
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby InItTogether » Fri Feb 09, 2018 11:53 pm

Explorer79 wrote:Sounds like you fully embraced the experience, nice. You're officially addicted now so, when you going back? :mrgreen:

In retrospect how different was it in reality than what you had imagined in all the months leading up (for us it was way different and even better that what we had thought it would be).
We would say that everyone was even friendlier, and not in a sexual way, than we could have hoped for. There was far less sexual PDA than we had anticipated there would be.This was neither good nor bad, just less than we thought there would be... maybe we are glad that there was less SPDA because it might have been intimidating and over stimulating for us newbies.
To be truthful and blunt, we had expected and hoped that it would light a fire on our sex life but it lit a BONFIRE and the flames are still burning even though we have been home for weeks :D
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby InItTogether » Sat Feb 10, 2018 12:34 am

klak wrote:1. The quote above...can you elaborate on "dabble a little?" If you'd rather message me, that'd be good. We aren't in LS and I've talked to her about if playfulness comes to her, I'm good with her playing but no intercourse. She's been silent on things of that matter which is fine with me but I'm real curious about the experience of first timers dabbling in soft swap.

~ we met a few couples and we kisses each others partners, and did a bit of kissing and hugging, i didn't let anyone touch me below the waist but my nipples were fair game. lol. We too had a no intercourse rule and we stuck to it. No one pressured us to go any further.
there was talk of BJ's so my husband was coerced to sit on the bar, i gave him a teaser BJ, then the other two ladies followed me on him OH BOY!! I could tell he didn't HATE it LOL, but he defiantly didn't allow himself to relax enough to fully enjoy the experience. The other two husbands took their turn sitting on the bar and they too had the three wives have a small go at them... no-one had a 'happy ending' it was just a bit of fun.
Having said that, i literally SWORE to my husband that there was NO WAY IN HELL i was going to give anyone a BJ, not because he didn't want me to or put restrictions on me, i just thought there was NO WAY i was going to be that 'free or comfortable' ..... how far i came in 2 days !! Did i mention i don't really drink... so i can't even blame the booze HAHA!! I will say in the week stay this was our only real 'sexual experience' not sure why, but we were fine with it because we had a great time everyday.

2. Did your husband participate in theme nights?

Yes he did, i had to convince him to do so, but i know he didn't regret it. I dressed to the 9's and he was quite conservative. Neon night, just a bright T shirt and bright boxers, lingerie night, black pants and suspender with no shirt, nautical night we wore matching captain hats and white shirts but mine was unbuttoned with a sexy bra , uniform night i was a sexy cop and he was a referee but he should have had a whistle. He now says that he wishes he would have put much more effort into each nights costumes..... believe it or not... i now look forward to our next trip to see what we come up with, i will tell you shopping for sexy outfits before we even left home was a erotic experience to share!

3. Single best bit of advice for a newbie?

Hmmmm i think it is keep talking .... even if one of you thinks "we've already talked about this" ... you KNOW your partner , you know their expressions, if something looks weird about their expression or they are a bit 'quiet', TALK to each other.. TALK..TALK...TALK... there is never enough talk.... have the most awkward conversations, if its in your brain rattling around, get it out!

4. Favorite thing about the trip looking back?

HIs: he says he could not feel closer to me, we talked deeper, more heartfelt, he trusted me with his sexual fantasies that he didn't feel he could express before. We are closer and more in love than ever by experiencing this together.
Hers; Mine feels lame compared to his... lol ... but , my favourite thing was walking on the beach, holding hands and giggling like teenagers when we recounted the night before... something/someone we saw, outfits worn, me being braver than $%(# with the stuff i wore!! i just loved laughing with him

5. What changed in your mind about it all from the minute you left home until the minute you left the resort?

We realized that everyone we met there are REAL PEOPLE! We were not surrounded by porn stars, or models... there were people there doing exactly what we were doing, escaping their busy, complicated personal and professional lives. Everyone we chose to talk to were really lovely people.

6. What will you do differently on your second trip?

He will get naked in minute one HAHA! I will try to beat him, by 30 seconds 8) :lol:
We will be happy to not have the yellow wrist bands on because we feel like we were not 'approached' as much because we were 'newbies' we might like to soft swap a bit more on trip #2....

Thank you again for the excellent review. We're in the review studying mode now. Klak

You are most welcome, we hope you two have the same wonderful experience as we did! We are quite confident you will! %%-
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby InItTogether » Sat Feb 10, 2018 12:38 am

Explorer79 wrote:
yoyo wrote:Know one can describe Desire.....you have to go and live Desire to understand what desire is all about and the great experience Desire offers.

:D

I think it was the Jones' who said in their podcast something along the lines of "If you've never been to Desire before no explanation is possible. If you've been to Desire before no explanation is necessary".


True words!! I like it ;)
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby Dani'stoy » Tue Feb 13, 2018 9:57 pm

Great report....Desire is awesome..We'll be 2 timers in 11 days! :mrgreen:
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby InItTogether » Fri Feb 16, 2018 1:39 am

Jealous... i would go tomorrow if i could~!! Enjoy ;)
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Re: F***ing Fantastic Trip for Newbies, Jan. 2018

Postby Beachside » Sun Feb 25, 2018 2:37 pm

Very well done review.
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