Re: June 2022 report
Postby XenaSteve » Wed Jun 15, 2022 3:59 pm
I find it a bit weird that so many people judges the OP for stating the reason they will not return. I think it is legitimate. One of the reason we go to Desire is to play with other couples. If we don't find couples to our taste, yes, we will probably have non sexual fun with other couples but, for us, having the possibility to find attractive couples to play with is an important part of the trip. I don't think this is being shallow.
Over our 10+ trips to RM, we've always found nice couples to play with but I have to admit, some trips were pretty disapointing because of a majority of overweight people. It is possible to be good-looking and beautiful on the inside. It's also possible to be unattractive and ugly on the inside. We find that a vast majority of people at Desire are so fun and we have great non-sexual fun with them. But if went there for the first time and didn't find anybody attractive to our taste, we probably would never have gone back.
Not everybody is looking for the same thing and I think most people responding here are only looking at their point of view. Well, that's my 2 cents!
blakeandriley wrote:Re: June 2022 report
Postby XenaSteve » Wed Jun 15, 2022 3:59 pm
I find it a bit weird that so many people judges the OP for stating the reason they will not return. I think it is legitimate. One of the reason we go to Desire is to play with other couples. If we don't find couples to our taste, yes, we will probably have non sexual fun with other couples but, for us, having the possibility to find attractive couples to play with is an important part of the trip. I don't think this is being shallow.
Over our 10+ trips to RM, we've always found nice couples to play with but I have to admit, some trips were pretty disapointing because of a majority of overweight people. It is possible to be good-looking and beautiful on the inside. It's also possible to be unattractive and ugly on the inside. We find that a vast majority of people at Desire are so fun and we have great non-sexual fun with them. But if went there for the first time and didn't find anybody attractive to our taste, we probably would never have gone back.
Not everybody is looking for the same thing and I think most people responding here are only looking at their point of view. Well, that's my 2 cents!
Thank you for seeing it from our point, people have been a bit nasty and have clearly misunderstood our OP. Love and peace to all!
shrimp1992 wrote:...
There’s no problem to feel the way you do. I’m sure you aren’t alone in your feelings. The problem was that you felt the need, for some reason, to come to the forum where many of the patrons you just called fat and ugly come to from time to time and say it. There was no need for it. You could have just gone about your day and never gone back in peace. That’s my two cents.
Cheers2US wrote:shrimp1992 wrote:...
There’s no problem to feel the way you do. I’m sure you aren’t alone in your feelings. The problem was that you felt the need, for some reason, to come to the forum where many of the patrons you just called fat and ugly come to from time to time and say it. There was no need for it. You could have just gone about your day and never gone back in peace. That’s my two cents.
This is an excellent point. You're right: the OP felt what he/they felt and was being honest with their feelings. But to come on a public forum and basically tell those of us who are not superficially attractive that we are so repulsive that they would not come back was pretty harsh.
Starflyr3 wrote:Not gonna lie; with our first trip coming up in a week, this post initially scared me.
I feel much better after reading replies.
MadMartigan wrote:werfun wrote:All we can say is you are only going to Desire if the other guests are a 9 or above, pleae go somewhere else so us common looking folks don't get upset over your outstanding good looks. Some of the best looking people that we have meet are so shallow that we wouldn't want to get to know them. Yes great looking on the outside but so very ugly on the inside.
Great reply.
We can't wait to get to Pearl in 2 months. We're not going there to see a non-stop victoria's secret fashion show by the pool everyday. I can look at hot bodies on the internet anytime. We're going for the experience together and to make new lifestyle friends (whatever they may look like).
A silver lining to look at though. As insensitive as the original comments were, they do serve a purpose. If they keep away others who would body shame or otherwise be unfriendly based on looks, then the original post has performed a valuable public service.
banderson2002 wrote:MadMartigan wrote:werfun wrote:All we can say is you are only going to Desire if the other guests are a 9 or above, pleae go somewhere else so us common looking folks don't get upset over your outstanding good looks. Some of the best looking people that we have meet are so shallow that we wouldn't want to get to know them. Yes great looking on the outside but so very ugly on the inside.
Great reply.
We can't wait to get to Pearl in 2 months. We're not going there to see a non-stop victoria's secret fashion show by the pool everyday. I can look at hot bodies on the internet anytime. We're going for the experience together and to make new lifestyle friends (whatever they may look like).
A silver lining to look at though. As insensitive as the original comments were, they do serve a purpose. If they keep away others who would body shame or otherwise be unfriendly based on looks, then the original post has performed a valuable public service.
Your last paragraph is spot on.
Just so happens our last trip overlapped with the OP, June, 2 - 7. We made more friends than our first trip and already have our next trip booked for December.
Neither of us are spring chickens but I happen to think my wife is gorgeous, of course I'm biased. I take no offense to being either of us being labeled as unattractive. As for the class comment...Seems to me there wasn't much of an attempt to find out if people had any class or not because the over arching criteria was looks. I'm guessing the OP didn't have much interaction to be able to determine that. They certainly didn't talk to us or any of our friends at the quiet end but then none of us are 9's. We're way hotter! LOL Seriously, every friend we came home with contact information on, were incredibly classy, highly educated professionals. I get that beauty is in the eye of the beholder but we both happen to think that people become less or more attractive as we talk and get to know them.
Objectively I can say there were several, in shape and very good looking couples there. Several come to mind in fact...or maybe I'm just recalling seeing the OP several times. LOL.
I'm just honestly not sure what the OP was expecting. Perhaps there was a lack of research. This forum is full of posts regarding the cross section of couples who go to Pearl to relax, unwind, enjoy life, make friends and do it naked without judgement.
blakeandriley wrote:werfun wrote:All we can say is you are only going to Desire if the other guests are a 9 or above, please go somewhere else so us common looking folks don't get upset over your outstanding good looks. Some of the best looking people that we have meet are so shallow that we wouldn't want to get to know them. Yes great looking on the outside but so very ugly on the inside.
This is the type of response I was expecting . . . .
Bruce&Pam wrote:blakeandriley wrote:werfun wrote:All we can say is you are only going to Desire if the other guests are a 9 or above, please go somewhere else so us common looking folks don't get upset over your outstanding good looks. Some of the best looking people that we have meet are so shallow that we wouldn't want to get to know them. Yes great looking on the outside but so very ugly on the inside.
This is the type of response I was expecting . . . .
Yeah? People who stand in front of moving cars should expect to get run over.
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