Complete Report J&J July,2015 (JMan Version)

[J&J2015]

Sitting in the terminal awaiting our boarding call for the flight home with the sweet buzz of Don Julio still in my head, I ponder about what this vacation meant to me, my wonderful soul mate and to society (I know a little ambitious for being at the end of a week long party). Desire Pearl (DP) is everything that you can hope and dream it to be if you plan accordingly and set reasonable expectations for you and your significant other. This was our honeymoon. Yes, honeymoon, so we were not there to rekindle, but to experience life and each other in ways that we had not contemplated. We are in our early forties, professionals and are in good shape but we are not in the LifeStyle, Swingers or polyamourous, but we now, thanks to our experiences at DP, understand what it all means.

JWoman (my beautiful soulmate) is what I would consider to be a fun-loving, strictly monogamous woman who is great in bed with a healthy sexual appetite. In our real world, she does not dress scantily, she is not an overtly sexual person, not overtly flirtatious and has no desire to be anything but committed to each other. JWoman is my best friend and in our short time together have been through more trials (caused externally) than most couples do in a decade. I would do anything for her to make her happy and fulfilled in our life together. We have also in our short time together, even before going to DP, had more and better sex than we had in over 10 years in our previous marriages. We are a great match and would do nothing ever to jeopardize what we have.

Until about May of this year, we had not even discussed going to a clothing optional resort. As we entertained the idea, after one of our trips to Palm Springs, I did some internet research and threw out the idea of doing our first clothing option trip in Mexico, a little farther from home. She was game because we, as a newly remarried couple with many painful experiences over our previous lives, want to have as many positive and adventurous experiences with each other as we possibly can. We thought that this would be one of them.

We had very clear boundaries set up prior to the trip (this is key) and what we hoped to experience. While at first as we booked the trip, as any red-blooded man would, I had visions of grandeur – another woman in the mix with all sorts of interesting positions and scenarios, through discussions really came down to that we would enjoy each other only in as many was possible in this trip. This was a great boundary and really, as I found out on this trip, not a boundary at all for having the best sexual experience of my life with the love of my life. In fact, this experience has shown me that having sexual inhibitions with your spouse is detrimental to having a full appreciation for the sexual connection that is possible. A FULL sexual connection allows you and your spouse to experience things together that most of society doesn’t (and will not likely ever) understand. When these society-imposed inhibitions are removed with the person you are committed to it binds you ever so much more tightly. The trust portion of the experience is awesome, albeit a little obvious, but key to pushing boundaries as a couple and experiencing new things TOGETHER in whatever situation. This TRUST is knowing that you don’t have to say to your spouse:

“try not to suck any dick on the way to the bathroom,”
“don’t swipe any coochies while I’m getting our next round of drinks” or
“no MMF action while I am napping.”

If those are within your boundaries, great for you and your spouse, however it should be clearly-defined.

Desire is about experiencing humanity and experiencing as many earthly pleasures as possible with your spouse and with others. You experience all things that your senses and emotions can handle at Desire: tastes, smells, sights, touch, joy, love, friendship, passion, sexual pleasure/playing, laughter, admiration, a sense of belonging and sharing something special with your spouse and all of the Desire inhabitants.

Smells:
When you arrive at DP, you are welcomed into a lovely smelling lobby with a unique fragrance. I would guess that this was all intentional as they just finished enclosing the lobby area to be air-conditioned and can control the fragrance of the lobby area. They must have taken a lesson from the Starwood hotels that have unique fragrances for each of their higher-tier hotels. If you have been to a Westin before, you know what I mean. Now they need to take it a step further and sell it. I would buy a gallon of it because it would take me back to our memorable times in the DP lobby.
The scents in the spa were equally as dreamy and will, I am sure, will conjure up memories of our spa experience this trip the next time we return.

Tastes:
The food is amazing. I have eaten at many great restaurants in many cities, love to cook myself and strongly believe that food is a form of communication and an expression of love and creativity - the food is prepared with both. The buffet at Aphrodite (Aphro) is really good. There are many options from decadent to healthy and absolutely do not disappoint: fish, pork, salads, crudo, vegetarian options, etc. Aphro during dinner did not disappoint on any of our nights there. We liked the service and feel so much at Aphro that we opted to have our lobster/champagne dinner there rather than at Pearl. Ivan was “the man” and gave us 5-star service. Saki needs a little help to be on par with some of the other offerings. I refer to the care and creativity above – the fresh seafood available at the other restaurants should lend to really good sushi, but instead there was too much rice in a few of the rolls and too many rolls where cream chees was offered. I would suggest Hamachi jalapeno, some vegetarian offerings (avocado/quinoa, brown rice etc), cucumber based rolls, and sashimi.

The alcohol selection and drinks are really above average, but not excellent without an additional fee. That’s not a problem, however because they have Flora Cana Rum 7 year, Don Julio (silver and reposado) and Grey Goose Vodka (behind the bar and available upon request with no extra charge). Started with margaritas then eventually graduated to Don Julio and soda….yum. JWoman was happy with Grey Goose/soda/pinapple mixing in Habanero Margaritas. I also sampled the same and was pleased.

Espresso was amazing (shaken over ice in the lobby was divine), the green juice in the morning provided rejuvenating recovery, and the chlorophyll in during lunch either provided a nice base of antioxidants before we bombarded our livers or counteracted early liver bombardment.

Friendships:
The Yahoo group is not absolutely essential, but having naked friends takes some time to develop. FYI…IMHO naked friends are some of the best you can have. We connected with 3 other couples via the July 2015 yahoo group. We then started a facebook group on messenger that allowed us to have conversations 24/7 for the almost 2 months leading up to our trip. So we knew each couple pretty well prior to arriving and naked embraces happened IMMEDIATELY upon each arrival.
Each of these friendships only grew as we experienced new things together: (i) naked catamaran/snorkeling/bodyshots, (ii) jacuzzi time, (iii) sharing the Sin Room (even though we giggled often in there), (iv) making up a couples competition that involved playful acts, (v) sharing the advantages of Cock-o-NutTM oil, (vi) body painting party! (vii) assisting each other with pouring body shots at the main pool bar during our last hour in the foam party.

Our friends (the Bourne’s, LH&AH, and AR&DR) are great and will more than likely be continuing to communicate to plan our next trip so that we coincide for the entire time. Thirty Points!

We met some new great people as well. Some of the couples are in the Lifestyle and we had many conversations of what that means. A very nice couple from Montreal talked to us about what the LS was like for them. They were not into jumping straight in with anyone and sometimes take these trips without hooking up with another couple. We also met a nice couple from Santa Cruz (M&T – please PM us so that we can stay connected!). They were fun to talk to and we had a nice game of beach volleyball, M&T vs. Yoga Girl and me. It was really fun and thanks for including me as Jwoman was napping. Jwoman was super bummed that she was napping and missed the possibility of a post-beach volleyball group shower! Maybe next time!

Passion:
Passion courses through the veins of all of the DP inhabitants 24/7. Sometimes it is more apparent than others, but it is a constant force. This passion takes the form of the interactions between all of the guests (genuine greetings at all turns and playful, sexy banter) and staff (“it is my pleasure” as a response to any expression of gratitude).

The entertainment staff was excellent. Eli in particular, a former male stripper, was really friendly, flirtatious and fun with my wife. She absolutely loved her interactions with him…I guess this was my first experience finding joy in seeing JWoman happy at the hand of another man (nothing sexual, but really, really flirtatious). One occasion in particular, Eli imparted some of his stripping techniques to me prior to the Stripper Show in the disco. I happened to be wearing a captain’s hat when the male stripper was wearing the same. During the show, the stripper blindfolded the woman that was brought up on stage and I finished off her show putting to full use the tips from Eli. It was an opportunity of a lifetime. JWoman then was “handled” by my stripper colleague! SO MUCH FUN!!

The rest of the staff was amazing as well. Gerry and Hector, our butlers for the master suite with plunge pool were awesome and greeted us by name anywhere they encountered us around the property. They handled our every request with speed and precision. The spa staff had amazing hands and rivaled any massage that we had ever had.

Sights:
The resort is beautiful throughout all of the grounds and every corner of the facility. But for the unsightly, smelly seaweed, it’s nearly perfect.

Nudity is seen at all times and all shapes and sizes display their wares around the pool, Jacuzzi and around the resort. I was surprised upon arrival that there was a younger crowd than I expected, however, there was also an older and less-in-shape crowd too…but kudos to them for going for it too. It is a wonderful and liberating feeling to be naked and to be able to be sexual with your mate (and others if that’s your thing) out in the open. While we did not find it enjoyable/sexy to see it, Deputy Dildo swapping at center stage and the Sucking Septuagenarian put it all out there. Being freely sexual at DP is not about turning everyone else on, but making sure that you and whomever you are engaged with are enjoying the freedom of the moment. Heck, someday I might be the Oral Octogenarian!! Ha!

Sexual Pleasure:
If you arrive at DP (knowingly and willingly - ☺), you are open to new sexual experiences – that’s a given. However, I was not expecting the fun new experiences that JWoman and I had on this trip. We are not a shy couple and jumped in with two feet within our pre-established boundaries – we watched porn in the Sin Room the first night; sex at the same time as our friends in the sin room the second night (giggled profusely at times); I had a glow-in-the-dark cock ring installed by a nice younger woman from Texas who unexpectedly took me by the balls with a nod from JWoman; made JWoman climax in the Sin Room as a dentist from Boston enjoyed the show; sex everywhere in the pool, the Jacuzzi, and the Jacuzzi beds (all sorts of positions); JWoman providing oral service to me in the middle of the Jacuzzi (in the name of scoring points in our game); and numerous body shots with each other.

Taking in several beers, glasses of wine, Monkey Sperm shots, or margaritas with a bunch of other naked inebriates seems for a recipe for vulgarity and groping. At DP this is not the case, save a few examples. After my wife and I put on a bit of a display at the Jacuzzi, JWoman was asked for a handjob. Now, just because my wife was on display pleasing me does not mean that she is now going to go “shake-weight” style on all of the guys whose wives were not present in the Jacuzzi at that moment. Also, another male DP inhabitant with a pretty wife, touched my wife in the Jacuzzi on several occasions with no conversation. This is not cool in any way and, in fact, most in the LS say that it is key that the women speak first prior to any touching at all. Aside from those instances, respect was flowing from all no matter the state of inebriation or arousal.

Now, I find myself wondering (several days out of the DP sphere and with a clear head), what are we sexually as a couple? Are we monogamous swingers? Are we swayers (don’t really know what that is)? We now talk about our next adventures – SMI? Plush Parties? DP(of course)? As I consider my longing for our adventures at DP, societal norms creep in and I feel like I need to be cautious to protect what JWoman and I have…but protect it from what? We had the best one-on-one sex of our lives on this trip. In fact, we would float around the pool in our own little room with me fully inside JWoman oblivious of what was going on around us... We had the best conversations about how committed we are to each other and what the whole experience has meant to us, how it has brought us closer in ways we would have never imagined. We do not need to be swingers to be sexually satisfied, but maybe we tapped into some form of a fountain of youth through the DP experience that we crave...but what that means will be determined through our next adventures. We are probably in the midst of a mid-life crisis, but whatever…we like it!

Desire Pearl and all of the people that made this trip an extremely memorable and transforming experience, SALUD! We will be raising our Habanero Margaritas to you all on Friday because our livers required a hiatus! ☺

See you all soon! (but probably not soon enough!)

[Xhibition Lovers]

Sorry we missed you. We left on July 11th.
Could not have said it better. Bravo to you both, your experience, and Desire.

[reachn]

Great report, glad you had a wonderful time.

[Beach girl]

All I can say is "wow"! Really enjoyed reading your report, well written. Sounds like you found the right person on your second time around. Enjoy and may you have many happy years together.

[sandybeachkim]

A beautiful story describing your sensual journeys along the way Thanks for sharing.

[J&J2015]

Thank you all for the kind words!!

[OurPleasure]

Hi J&J,

We enjoyed our time together with you. I did send you a PM on FB after birthday boy gave me your last name. Your friend button is disabled. Would have said farewell but after the foam party T took a three hour nap on the beach and we missed you. Well written trip report. We were not swingers our first trip either until we met the right couple our second trip. This year was our third year in a row! We might take next year off from DP as we are headed to St Thomas next year with the couple we met year two. Friend me on FB and we can keep in touch. I know we will be back someday and hope to see you there.

M&T

[J&J2015]

Disabled? Odd.
send me an email and I'll friend you.

[goodytimes2]

Best report I have seen thanks for sharing. You described a lot of what I think many of us are thinking and I believe it will help us with. Some of our inhibitions being are first time to a C/O resort as well as set respectable boundaries. In the end, we hope to feel they same way as you described.

[Smittenkitten2]

Thank you for such a great trip report. I want you, and everybody who posts on all of these boards, to know how much it is appreciated.

My husband and I learned about Desire probably 5 or 6 years ago through a friend. Not that kind of friend. A friend that knows me and my husband and obviously saw something in our relationship, to make him suggest it to us. What a compliment, now that I think about it. He and his wife are very much in love, and they had been years ago.

That being said, we are about to leave for our second trip to the Excellence Resort just up the beach from DP . . . . because I keep chickening out! And I am kicking myself in the ass for it, now more than ever before! It is the trip reports like these that tell me, this is the right place for us. My husband is my soulmate. We have a great love for one another. We have a very rich sex life. To have an opportunity to make those bonds even deeper, is one that I don't want to miss. He feels the same.

I scour these boards, read them all, and never post. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, who shares experiences on these boards are wonderful! Just wonderful, and I want to be a part of that.

I write this for two reasons.

I want you all to know what a positive impact you have on people (lurkers like me, ha) whom you may not even be aware of.

When I arrive at Excellence this Saturday, my heart will be at Pearl. So, should we take a walk on the beach and stroll by DP, it's not because we are lookie loos. It's because I want to see the resort, and get myself one step closer to booking our Desire vacation!

Maybe I'll wear a red carnation.

It has taken too long for me to work the nerve up. I won't miss the chance when we book our next trip.

Thank you to all of you. I mean it.

[Smittenkitten2]

I forgot to add . .

I have even went so far as to buy some sexy club type wear and outfits. THREE YEARS AGO!

That I will be wearing at Excellence. In my room only.

Gah. What an idiot. Lol.

[TandD]

I don't know which aspect about a Desire visit has caused you hesitation but I do really feel for the women and the immense social pressures on them to 1) look like a supermodel, 2) act their age, 3) suppress their sexuality, and 4) countless other things that I'm probably not even aware of.

Kudos to the women who have overcome these, not needed to, or are still working on it.

[Dogma]

I would see if you can stay a night at pearl during your trip. Probably at the end of your trip otherwise you will be kicking yourself for not booking the whole vaca there.

[Smittenkitten2]

I actually looked into booking two nights, because I felt like one would not give me a true sense of it. It was $500 per night thru the Desire website. We just spent $700 on a sick dog, with more to go, and we have to replace a HVAC unit in our home when we get back. Otherwise, I definitely would have.

Great minds think alike.

P.s. thanks TandD for your kind words.

[Danlisah]

J&j

We really appreciate what I think is the best depiction of the essence of Desire Pearl that we have read on the forum. You two have what many of us also share in a penchant for adventure Together!! Awesome report, wish Lisa & I could have been there to meet you two. We can't wait until 2/1 to be here.

Cheers

Dan & Lisa