Mrandmrst wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and express my opinion that Frosty82 is legit and sincere.
I've been following this thread and others where people have questioned her legitimacy because I, too, found her questions suspicious. It got me wondering, what is about her questions that set off the BS alarms for so many of us. Here's my theory:
When I first discovered that places like Desire existed, I was totally shocked. I was raised in a religious family that encouraged the repression of sexuality. To find out that adults behaved this way openly and unashamedly was a revelation. For a 50ish year old man with the sexual curiosity of a 15 year old, it was intensely interesting and exciting, and the impetus to explore this newly discovered universe was irresistable. Fortunately the intensity of this interest abated over that first wild year of discovery. I suspect my story is not uncommon.
My hunch is that Frosty82 is in the same stage of discovery. Her questions come across as over-eager because she is in the throes of discovery - call it an awakening if you will. Some of my early questions on this forum were similarly naive and awkward.
Now, many of us have dual lives. In one life we are respectable members of society who lie to friends, family, and co-workers about where we go every year on vacation. In the other life we are open, fun-loving, sexually free citizens of Desireland. Most of us are very careful to keep these worlds separate to the point where we've developed hair-trigger responses to anything that might threaten our privacy either directly or indirectly. While Frosty82s questions were in no way threatening, I do think they triggered the same detector we use to protect our privacy and that's why her posts seemed fishy.
Again, this is just one dudes opinion. I know I'm not well known around here - I mostly lurk nowadays. But I've been on the forum for several years and, in my early days, posted a fair amount.
I, for one, am going to give Frosty82 the benefit of the doubt and believe that she's a real person asking sincere questions. Hopefully we didn't scare her off and she'll continue to engage in this forum, and we'll all enjoy witnessing her evolution as a welcome new member of this special community.
I find a lot of what is said there really really fascinating.
The dual lives part in particular... We all do it... and coming from conservative roots it's often important that we keep parts of our lives really private. I actually watch people's location with great interest with many more posters seem to be coming from more conservative areas than the classically "liberal" areas...
Definitely not trying to open a political discussion, but coming from Australia but having spent considerable time in the USA, how important is it for people to maintain that classic facade at home?
My wife and I are really different like that... I am a total open book when it comes to sexuality but she is more reserved (she says prude, but she is far from it) around others... but we are certainly coming up with a cover story about why we are flying 16 hours from Sydney to Houston, just to stay one night, then fly to Cancun when Bali and Thailand are only 4 and 8 hours away!!!
"You can get a great villa in Thailand for a quarter of the price you're paying to go to Cancun" says lots of friends and family... I really want to say "Yes, I could, but I can't run around nude and shag the wife in public without ending up in a Thai jail or at the very least booted out the resort!!!".