Swapping

[batchman1997]

Hi, my wife and I are planning to go in the fall. One of my fantasies is to see my wife with another man. If we did that, we would for sure be part of a full swap. Although that turns me on in thought and while it's happening, I'm worried that I may become jealous afterwards. Has anyone done the same and how did you feel afterwards? Were you turned on to try again or did you regret it. I'm pretty open and love to see my wife naked in front of others and plan to make love to each other in public however this would be new territory.

[oryth5588]

Hi, my wife and I are planning to go in the fall. One of my fantasies is to see my wife with another man. If we did that, we would for sure be part of a full swap. Although that turns me on in thought and while it's happening, I'm worried that I may become jealous afterwards. Has anyone done the same and how did you feel afterwards? Were you turned on to try again or did you regret it. I'm pretty open and love to see my wife naked in front of others and plan to make love to each other in public however this would be new territory.

Recently we experienced with a threesome with a close friend (male) MMF. I know what you are feeling like. I was the same way the thought and fantasy of my wife with another man was turning me on, don’t know why, don’t know how, it’s just is, and also thought if any other guys were like me. So later on I kept fantasying about it and eventually got my wife fantasying about it. Not long later we did it!

Here is a few thing you might want to know,

1) Talk to your wife
2) You will be jealous or at least a little bit jealous. It’s our nature as male species to dominate one another.
3) If you are or are not, make sure you involve yourself. Unless you absolutely get turned-on by watching.
4) (IMPORTANT) I should have set this as number 1. As much as you want this as a fantasy. This is your WIFE; make sure she is absolutely comfortable about this. If so then make this all about her first. Trust me you won’t regret it!
5) Have a safe word: like WATER: I thirsty, I’m getting a glass of WATER. This way whatever is happening you both have a safety area to talk about whatever is going on. Or some sort or touch method like rubbing the ear lob to signify, LOOK I GETTING JEALOUS!
6) Get more information, podcast, Google or any other research site.
• Some podcast are awesome for info. Like, sex is fun, swingercast, boris and doris or life on a swingset are all great podcast for extra information.

With all said and done, be sure to talk about it and know all the pros and cons. If you are upset (NOT SAYING YOU WILL). Do not stomp your foot and whine like a baby, because it will not help you with anything. Just relax and talk about it.

My experience was definitely an eye opener. I wouldn’t say I didn’t get jealous, which I did. But my wife and I both talked about it afterward. And now we both want to do it again. I think all man should experience this at least once. You certainly would learn a lot about your spouse’s like and dislike pretty quick.

I hope this information would help you. And if you have some leisure time, read OPENING UP, by Tristan Taomino great book to read for more info.

Have Fun, because SEX IS FUN!

[batchman1997]

Thanks Oryth - same here don't know why or how I keep thinking about this but this is exactly the information I was looking for. Who knows if it will ever come to fruition but I want to be prepared. I would never ask my wife to do anything she was not comfortable with and it is only in the fantasy talk stage right now. I think if we did it, she would be doing it mostly to please me however I hope that she would enjoy herself as well. We have talked about separating the love for each other from this type of sex and want to try something fun and exciting. Thanks!

[oryth5588]

No problem! we're planning on going with Swingercast to Desire in March. First Time: but I heard it's awesome and can't wait.

The Fantasy talking stage is the greatest. My wife is currently pregnant now. So we still have the fantasy about the MMF. We'll certainly try it again "soon"!

At first my wife explain that she's doing this for me. But more and more we talked and fantasied about it the more we found out she also wants it.

We're still learn everything in the lifestyle. It's pretty complicated but damn fun the same time.

[bjersr]

We just started swapping back in Jan. We usually play with others about once or twice a month. I can honestly say I have never been jealous. She is having fun and I am having fun.

[aceandsam]

make sure you both talk to each other and decide on comfort levels, these may change as time goes on. I think initially there is some jealousy, but it wears off after a couple times. We started with 3somes, but later discovered that this is where the jealousy usually stems from in that one person is getting more than the other. We personally like the couples thing better just because then its a fair exchange and everyone is getting something. We are soft swappers, meaning we don't have sex with others, so maybe that has a little less of a jealousy factor. All in all, go for it, it will likely be a positive experience. Just communicate, promise to explore without getting upset with each other as you both agreed to it, and have your safe word. Once you try it, you will wonder what took you so long to get "into the lifestyle" Life becomes paradise after this transition if both people are happy, so take it slow and enjoy every minute of it.