My apologies ahead of time for the long winded post!
My girlfriend/fiancee (of 6+ years) and I have been debating on going on an international beach vacation for some time now. We haven't been on one since right before the pandemic. I discovered Desire maybe about a year ago when I was just browsing all-inclusive resorts in Mexico, but never thought I'd want to go, or even if I did want to, that my gf would agree to come with me.
As time has gone on, I've been becoming more open, accepting and understanding of some of my kinks. While I'm not, and don't see myself ever becoming, a member of the "lifestyle" (never say never I guess), I've come to learn that I get extremely turned on by hearing and seeing other people perform sexual activities. Not only that, but I think I also enjoy being watched while performing sexual acts. Turns out, I guess I enjoy a little voyeurism and exhibitionism.
When her and I first started dating, back in college, we used to have a ton of fun. Sex on the balcony during spring break, sneaking blowjobs at night on a pool bed, sex outside behind her college apartment when her parents were visiting. But of course, we got older, we stopped getting drunk so often, and we have real world responsibilities now. Now we have plain, vanilla sex maybe every 2-3 weeks. If I'm lucky. Mind you, we're only 29M and 27F.
Last week, I said "f**k it, we're going to book this vacation". Desire was the first place that came to mind for some reason. So I created a pros and cons list and sent it to her along with the website to Desire Pearl. And surprisingly, she said she was down. In my pros/cons list, I listed:
Pros:
1. All inclusive vacation on a Mexican beach with no other kids or annoying teenagers/college kids
2. Sauna/spa included
3. can be nude if we want, clothing optional, not nude mandatory
4. can spice things up, as in, sex in public areas, balcony, etc
5. don't need to be self-conscious about body image
6. something the both of us can enjoy. I can enjoy my voyeurism, she can enjoy a regular beach vacation
Cons:
1. May have to see other people have sex (I only listed this because I'm not sure how she feels about it yet. For me personally, this is a pro)
Are there any other pros/cons anybody can think of that I could use to help maybe ease her mind or make her feel more comfortable about going here? We haven't had a full discussion yet, as we aren't planning on going for another month, but I'm wondering if I'm missing anything that could help when we do have the discussion. I plan on telling her exactly why I want to go, what I'm expecting out of the trip and what I'm not expecting out of the trip. I do plan on being nude, maybe not on day 1, but definitely at some point during the trip. I wanted to reiterate to her that it's not a requirement if she doesn't feel comfortable, but I am hoping that by day 2 she will be comfortable enough to at least have her titties out.
tl;dr: non-lifestyle, young couple (29M 27F) planning first Pearl trip, what are pros/cons to help ease F mind about this trip?
Thanks in advance!