His perspective:
Like she said above, this was our first (of many to come hopefully) trip to Desire. As a matter of fact it was our first time ever to anything of the sorts, we have never even been to a strip club, a LS club, or anything. We are both a conservative couple, raised in the Bible Belt. However, we are both freaks in our own home and in our heads
So most may ask "why did you choose Desire or how did you decide on it?" Well, this past May was our 10 year wedding anniversary and she has said for years that we needed to get away, just her and I. You see according to the book the 5 love languages, hers is quality time. Having 2 children and demanding jobs, life gets hectic and we don't always have time to spend just her and I. So for our anniversary I wanted to treat her. I began looking at secluded beach resorts and had in mind a bungalow style room with a private beach, secluded from all others. In my research I began to realize that was going to be pricey. So I began looking at couples only resorts, and by this time I had told her what I was planning and to help me look. So she contacted the travel agent and explained. The travel agent sent us Temptations and we looked over it. We didn't really like the sound of it because of the single men and such. Thats when we stumbled on Desire, we contacted the travel agent and she read the misses mind and sent us over the quotes. You see, we couldn't come right out and tell the travel agent because we were bashful and didn't want her to know what freaks we are,
. So we booked the trip and started reading this forum and with the advice of some of her friends in the FB groups, listening to podcasts. The biggest thing that I have learned from the is COMMUNICATE!!! So we began talking, the more we talked the open and honest the conversations became. We both had fantasies, and started to realize that we needed to set some boundaries for our trip. We both had the mindset that we wasn't going on the hunt but would be open to possible play. And if nothing happened then that was fine to, we were still going to enjoy each other.
The outfits for theme nights, the thong bikinis, and sexy dresses began pouring in from one line orders and my heart started pumping a more steady flow of blood to my penis!! I have always wanted to see her in sexy low cut high thigh dresses with no bra or panties, and thong bikini bottoms!! My dreams were coming true!! It was so fun planning and ordering stuff for theme nights and dinner, we were both getting super excited!! The time had finally came and the night before we dropped the kids off with her parents for the week. We were nervous but excited. On the way to the airport, I said "you should go braless!" Being adventurous, she did!
I went commando as well (BIG MISTAKE, my shirts rubbed the top of my penis a little raw. But thats ok, coconut oil and vitamin E oil are a must for a trip like this.). We finally made it thru customs at the airport, it wasn't bad but the line was long and we were horny, I mean hungry (advice= eat more than just a biscuit before you leave, its gonna be a long day). We got to our transport, and off we went. We had 2 guys in the van with us that were going to a separate resort, so they got dropped off first. Then we finally made it to Desire RM!!! Up on arrival the lady at the front desk was very nice and check in was a breeze. They then sent us with a gentlemen to go over some house rules and give us the black book. He then gave us a voucher for $500. She was really hungry and getting lethargic at this point and I made sure to tell him that and she needed to eat ASAP or we were all going to have a bad day. While he was talking I was reading the voucher, it was a sales pitch and I told him not right now and we were going to eat. So he was very nice and let us go easily.
Once we rounded the corner to the restaurants and pool, it hit us like a ton of bricks. What have we gotten ourselves into!!! Nakedness EVERYWHERE!! We sat down to eat at the buffet and we couldn't stop looking out the windows, our minds were racing. This whole time I was saying "Im going nude the second I exit the lobby", boy did that change. I became an introvert, something that I am totally not used to. She became a bubbly, confident women!! This was not the norm and it was screwing with my mind!! We swam in the pool and then went up to the hot tub to see what all the fuss was about. This was Saturday and the hot tub was packed!! We would have had to be on someones shoulders to get in, so we got a bed and laid and watched a couple beside us have sex. It was hot, but I wasn't in the right mind set to be able to perform and we decided to go to the room and have our own kinky sex!! We got ready and went to dinner with her friend from FB, then to the show. We didn't dress up this night (although we had the outfits to). Then the playmakers or show girls started going around giving guys mini lap dances. Fortunately or unfortunately, we were on the front room at a round high top table close to the bar and one of them came up to me and started giving me one!! Oh shit is exactly what I was thinking!! We had a conversation, and long story short any play was off the table. But I went along with it in a mental state of panic and kept telling myself "she'll understand, I didn't ask for this". lol. Afterwards, I asked if she was alright, and sure enough she was and thought it was hot. Then here they came, 3 of them!!! They grabbed me and pulled my up on the platform, and all 3 started giving me a lap dance!!! I was beside myself, I couldn't pay attention to them because I was so focused on my wife and her reaction. She was smiling and so was I, not solely from enjoyment but a lot more from embarrassment and being the center of attention. Then the stripped me down naked!!!!!
I was stunned at this point!! What penis I do have has now ran and has wrapped itself around my lungs hiding!! Even more embarrassing, LOL. But hey whatever, its all in good fun. I made sure to ask her if she was alright, and she was. Her only question was "how did you not have a boner?" LMAO!!! I explained, not just anything gives a guy a boner, especially in that situation!!!
The first full day (Sunday), we reserved a round bed by the pool (her timeline says beach but that isn't right
), we had a good time. We sat on the shaded side of the pool and just relaxed and drank and talked all day. She slipped off her top by lunch time, and I was like a kid in a candy store. My wife who is mostly reserved, is laying her and walking around topless and in a thong bikini!! I was beside myself!! I was beginning to see a role reversal that I have never seen before, and feelings I had never experienced. I begin to realize just how much I needed my wife, she was/is my comforter. She would make a pass at me and I would giggle like a school boy, you see I hadn't yet came to terms with flaunting a boner for the world to see, and I haven't came to terms with being naked for the whole resort to see either. My penis belongs to my wife, and I hadn't gotten into the mind set of "no one cares about your penis" just yet. That night we went and ate, then got dressed for the theme night. We went to the show and stayed toward the back side of the bar this night lol. Then to the disco, we didn't really dance because there isn't much of a dance floor. Instead we sat back and enjoyed the shows going on around us, BJ's and PDS. We then made our way to a beach bed and had our own fun
and then on to bed.
The second day (Monday), we decided to get a beach bed and just relax by the ocean. This was AWESOME!!! It was so relaxing, there were people on one side of us but no one on the other. We drank, and drank, and drank. Swam in the ocean, and laid on the beach bed. We saw some action and had a great time. The wife by this time had gotten completely nude, and was practically begging me to get naked!! I had yet came to terms with it and was being reserved, again totally not like me. She had bought in to the whole thing and was having the time of her life!! It was so fun to see her in her element, being sexy and confidant. It was like a new women had been birthed!! And I was as gitty as I ever have been watching this unfold before my eyes!! We talked to several people (a couple we had met there, a couple she had met the women on FB group), both in the LS. The one couple we had met there really impacted our lives that day. We seen that they truly love each other as much as my wife and I love each other. And it became a mind fuk for us. We began to talk about the LS and the possibilities of exploring and how we could finally see, first hand, how fun it would be to see are fantasies come to life. We made it to dinner and the theme night and on to bed, after a round of very erotic sex between her and I.
Day 3: We decide to get a beach bed again, because of how relaxing it was the day before. She gets naked straight out of the gate, and the drinks start flowing!!! As I laid there listening to her not pressure me about getting naked, I came to terms with it. You see who cares what the others think of me, my wife wants to see me naked. She got up to go get in the ocean, and I swallowed my pride. I lost the trunks and gained a new found confidence, a freedom. When she saw me naked walking down the beach towards her, I saw her face light up!! The party was on!! We went to the Art of Touch workshop at 4:30, that was awesome!! Super hot!!! You have to do it!! And make sure to listen to Room77 podcast, they are hilarious and we felt like we knew them and had never even met them before. Super nice, sexy, and funny couple!!
Day 4: Our last full day we decided to party by the pool. We got a round bed, but after lunch we stayed in the pool, NAKED!! I never put my trunks back on except to go snorkeling that morning and to lunch that day. We talked to a couple she had met on FB group and had an incredible vibe going with them. We found them both attractive, and we were all kind of flirting and stuff in the pool. It was cool to see the "dance" taking place. They decided to go to the hot tub and my wife and I decided to stay at the pool and talk. We floated around in the pool for and hour or more talking, it was awesome. We opened up in conversations like we have never had before and began to realize more and more how much I need/needed her. She truly is my best friend. That night we all went dancing and I made sure to make us room on the dance floor!!! We then went back to our room to begin packing. We went to the lobby bar for the must have BLT's and ran into the "pool" couple. We talked for a long while, but never did work up the encouragement to do anything or say we wanted to(thats a part of that acquired transition that you hear about in the podcasts). Then it was off to bed for us.
In conclusion, if you are thinking about going, do yourself a favor and GO!!! The staff is awesome and you will never be with out a drink. We tipped a dollar to 2 or 3 most every time they brought us a drink and Im sure that helped a little. You and your spouse will learn more about yourselves than you ever knew. Even if the LS isn't for you, it is a very freeing and liberating place. A place that is truly judgment free and you can be yourself. You will soon learn that all body types and all ages are sexy, confidence is sexy!! I know we will be going back, and are already planning a trip next year!! Maybe I won't be so backward at first, as a matter of fact I know I won't be. We had the times of our lives!!!