My husband and I recently got back from our first trip to Desire RM. We were there celebrating our ten year wedding anniversary. I am 29 and my husband is 30. Before this trip we had never been to a nude beach or anything. Honestly, neither of us had ever even been to a strip club. (The strip clubs in our area have a terrible reputation) before our trip we joined this forum. We read everything there was to read. We did tons of research. We really never even considered the lifestyle until planning for this trip. Our conversations were really hot and we thought we may dip our toes in the lifestyle while on this trip. Just a few days before we left, I had a moment, emotionally... and I changed my mind. I didn't even want to consider the lifestyle at this point. So off we go to Desire...
When we arrived we were extremely tired and hungry. We didn't have any trouble saying no to the sales pitch. I joked that they profiled us and thought we wouldn't be able to afford it anyway because of our age. After the sit down where they told us where everything is, we headed straight to get some lunch. Mind you, neither of us have seen another naked person in at least 12 years (other than porn ) we rounded the corner, heading to the restaurant and the stood 3 naked people and my brain went haywire I was shocked at first. We sat down to eat lunch and I was so overstimulated. I was having second thoughts for sure. Then a really nice couple sat down at the table next to us. They saw our yellow bracelets and the looks on our faces and started joking with us. We had a really nice conversation with them and they really put us both at ease. After we ate, we headed back to our room to get our swimsuits on and head to the pool. It was probably around 3pm and there were no chairs or beds so we went to the bar and ended up running into the couple we chatted with at the restaurant, they told us we could put our stuff on their chairs. So we did, then we headed into the pool. Prior to the trip, my husband was so confident that he would be in the buff the entire time we were there. I, on the other hand, said I'd probably not get fully nude at all. Five minutes in, my top came off... And to all the ladies who are worried about being self conscious... Don't worry!! I was so nervous because I've had two children and nursed both of them... My boobs are my main insecurity... And I was topless within minutes. I've never felt so sexy in my life. My insecurities faded away and I was more confident than ever before! I was surrounded by fake perfect perky boobs but I felt incredible with my mom boobs my husband never went completely nude the first day. I guess it was a mind f**k for him because we had a complete role reversal while we were at Desire. He was more timid and I was more confident, which is much different from our normal life.
A little while later, everyone started migrating to the hot tub. We had read a lot about it on the forum but we weren't sure that was our scene. we decided to head up there to see what it was all about... we were a little intimidated by the environment and left shortly after we arrived. We were getting ready for dinner when I got a text message from a girl I had met through a ladies desire Facebook group asking if we'd like to join her and her husband for dinner. We agreed. We went and had a nice time meeting them. After dinner they were going to have a burlesque show outside the lobby. We got a good seat, close to the action of the show (please watch your seating if you're a newbie and don't want to be involved in the show ) the show starts and this super sexy playmaker comes out dancing and giving mini lap dances to some of the men in the crowd. My husband (who is acting very timid and had never had a lap dance in his life) got a lap dance from this sexy lady. She was very seductive and had this super sexy look in her eyes. She was great! Meanwhile he is looking at me with a panicked look like it's this ok?! I thought it was incredibly sexy. But at the same time, my heart was racing!! Later on in the show the same girl and two other ladies came and pulled my husband up on stage and they all three were dancing on him. It was hot!! Then they started unbuttoning his shirt... Then his pants... They stood him up naked in front of everyone at the show. He about died we had never read about anything like this happening so I wanted to include it in our trip review for newbies. After the show we went to the DIsco and watched things going on in there... Then we decided we would head to the beach for some alone time. It was a full moon. It was such a beautiful night. We ended up having sex on the beach it was perfect! I will never forget it!! But before we went on the trip, we thought we would be into having sex in front of others but quickly realized that is not for us. We prefer to be without an audience
The next day we headed to the beach. I loved being on the beach. It seemed you had a little more privacy out there. I took my bottoms off the second day and never wore them again (except when we went snorkeling) it was so liberating!! And again, I felt more confident than ever before!! I didn't want to pressure my husband to take it all off (who am I kidding, yes I did!! ) but I kept bringing it up and he was just more reserved so he didn't take his trunks off that day but we had a wonderful day together and ended up chatting with the couple who approached us at lunch the day before quite a bit. We really liked them and their story. They were in the lifestyle. We could tell that they deeply love each other and have a really strong bond. It was refreshing to see that type of relationship in the lifestyle. It really changed our perception of the lifestyle.
Meanwhile, another couple that I had met online and I had been messaging the wife were set to arrive the next day. We were really excited to meet them in person because we had some similar interests and it seemed like we would really vibe with them. They arrived and we met them and chatted with them a bit. I was a little too chatty I had a lot of questions about the lifestyle and how they came to be in the lifestyle and different things. I am just a very curious person. They did not mind and indulged all my questions. We went on back to our room that night. And I guess I should mention, we had INCREDIBLE SEX the entire time we were on our trip!! It was like never before. We have a very healthy and active sex life at home, but the environment at Desire really adds to your private time!
We went to the art of touch workshop with Richard and Lauren on Tuesday! It was worshiping the women on that day. It was so HOT!!!! OMG! It was incredible. At one point Richard and Lauren and my husband all had their hands on me and it was sensory overload! I really enjoyed it and wished that we were there on Thursday for the mens. (We will make sure we are there for the mens next time) It was a tad bit distracting for us at some points so we didnt actually have sex in there but we did enjoy every minute of it!! One thing I wish I would have done differently - I was wearing a blindfold so I couldnt see all the hands touching me... my husband said it was so incredibly hot and that image was definitely going in the spank bank but I wish I had the visual also... next time no blindfold!!
Finally, on the third day of our trip, all my pressuring worked! I was walking to the beach and my husband was supposed to be coming too. I looked back and he was NAKED! I was shocked and excited!! We had sex in the ocean and it was incredible!
Fast forward to our last day, we had talked to the couple from facebook a few times but nothing really in depth. The last day, we hung out with them in the pool for most of the afternoon. We really vibed with them and thought they were both attractive people. We had began having conversations with each other (me and my husband) about the possibility of play with them and I was good with it. Something shifted in my mind when we went to Desire. I had a newfound confidence in myself and in my marriage. That is not something I expected to come away with from going to a clothing optional resort We had a great time with them in the pool that afternoon. They went to the hot tub and invited us to come too but we were still kind of reserved. Later that night, we began conversating with them again and we were hoping to maybe bring it up about the possibility of play but we were too green and we didnt know exactly how to approach that subject so we never did but the idea of it has been fueling our alone time for a few weeks. We have kept in touch and are planning to get together with them in a couple of months. Since we have been home, we have joined kasidie and have been having the sexiest conversations with each other. Our communication has never been better! Our marriage is even stronger than before and I never expected to have these types of benefits from a vacation. I have never came home from a vacation with life lessons the way I did with this trip.
Everyone there was sexy! Women and men of all ages, all shapes and all sizes!! EVERYONE was sexy! If you are having second thoughts because of insecurities over your body... please take my advice! One of my favorite mental images was of a lady who was a bigger woman (with excellent boobs!) was in the beach bed next to us... she was riding her husband reverse cowgirl one afternoon and it was a glorious sight! I am shy doing reverse cowgirl in my own bedroom sometimes... but she was so sexy and owning it! It was incredible! The people we met there were the nicest people we have ever had the pleasure of meeting. We stood around naked having the best conversations with strangers who soon became friends. If you are having reservations about booking a trip... DO IT! It will be the best trip you have ever had! I am hoping my husband will come and write his report too maybe in the comments of this thread so you can read his viewpoint of the trip.