eddieandjojo wrote:Interesting how this topic comes up every so often and while I tell myself not to engage, I end up posting for those who are on the fence about visiting the resort. As far as I know, Desire has never billed itself as a Lifestyle resort. Is it lifestyle friendly, of course it is but just look on their official website and you'll see the following "Choose the intensity of your adult-only experience, to create the perfect stay, in a world where clothing is optional and fantasies are endless. Bring your dreams to life in an atmosphere that is BEYOND SEDUCTION…"
While I don't need to say much else, I will end this post by saying it's an amazing place that hasn't changed much over the past 13 years since we've been going. It's ALL about who is their during your stay and how you approach your vacation. Lastly, if a lifestyle vacation is what you are after then simply contact one of many LS sites to see where the complete takeovers are planned. LL has a great party at RM every March.
Anyway, just my .02 cents, for what it's worth!
Any other lifestylers on here... please pm us with any thoughts on a new lifestyle place. Otherwise we will just go to clubs near home in the USA.
jandr2u wrote:Well, as a non-LS (before going to Desire), I'm disappointed to read this post. I'm sorry your trip wasn't a success, by whatever means you're measuring success.
It seems like there are a lot of people in the vanilla world who use Desire as a way to dip their toes in the LS pool, so to speak. For some, that progression will be very fast, for others, like us, it will take more than one trip to progress to wherever it is we're progressing to on this adventure together. I'd hope that the LS crowd at Desire would be patient with those of us who are newer and exploring. At least that's been our experience with 95% of the LS folks we've met both at the resort and at the few meet and greets we've been to.
For me, it's more important that the people at the resort are non-judgemental, open, fun, and sexy. They don't need to be swingers or naked all the time. Those seem to be requirements that get in the way of having fun (clearly). You be you, I'll be me and we'll be great together. My wife has no problem being naked, but REALLY loves wearing a bikini. So she wears bikinis that she couldn't wear anywhere else we go. Sexy AF. But I guess because she's not naked all the time, she's probably ruining someone else's time. That seems like their problem, not hers. Gotta love seeing her prance around in a tiny bikini and waiting for her to take it off.
Anyway, I think week to week has to be very different mix-wise and we should look at those that aren't quite comfortable getting naked or participating in LS activities yet as folks we can help bring along on whatever journey they're on. I wonder how many people the OP spoke to and found out why they weren't naked or found out where in their LS journey they were. That would provide more useful information I think.
ILikefun wrote:As a couple who just spent 4 nights at Desire RM in June we would like to input a little with some thoughts/experiences.
-My wife and I don't go fully nude, she goes topless, he wears very "clingy" shorts, but the privates will always be covered. Why? It leaves something for the imagination and we love to be asked to take off our pants. *devil smiley* Our level of clothing doesn't say anything about our sexual preferences.
D&G-in-love wrote:ILikefun wrote:As a couple who just spent 4 nights at Desire RM in June we would like to input a little with some thoughts/experiences.
-My wife and I don't go fully nude, she goes topless, he wears very "clingy" shorts, but the privates will always be covered. Why? It leaves something for the imagination and we love to be asked to take off our pants. *devil smiley* Our level of clothing doesn't say anything about our sexual preferences.
Ok, let me start by saying that I realize that Desire is a c/o resort, and that nudity is not required. I acknowledge that it is everybody’s right to wear a swimsuit at Desire. That being said, I will offer my opinion that it really annoys me when people come to Desire and keep their suits on. There are enough textile resorts around, why would you go to a c/o resort and keep your suits on? The only explanation that I could think of before today is that you want to look at nude people but are too shy or too embarrassed to be nude yourself. For me, neither explanation is acceptable. My thinking is you either go nude yourself or you don’t go to a c/o resort.
Now, after reading the post I have quoted above, I see that there’s another possible explanation for why some people would go to a c/o resort but keep their suits on: they want attention. They want others to beg them to take their suits off. Really?? To seek attention like that seems a little immature to me (insert mental image of a child screeching “look at me, mommy, look at me!”). That’s definitely not the type of person/people I would care to be around, but that’s my personal preference.
For the record, if you are at Desire and you keep your swimsuit on for your entire stay, there are going to be people (myself included) that will believe that you’re either a gawker and/or pervert who is there to get an eyeful without exposing himself/herself, or your junk (male or female) is not fit to see the light of day.
D&G-in-love wrote:ILikefun wrote:As a couple who just spent 4 nights at Desire RM in June we would like to input a little with some thoughts/experiences.
-My wife and I don't go fully nude, she goes topless, he wears very "clingy" shorts, but the privates will always be covered. Why? It leaves something for the imagination and we love to be asked to take off our pants. *devil smiley* Our level of clothing doesn't say anything about our sexual preferences.
Ok, let me start by saying that I realize that Desire is a c/o resort, and that nudity is not required. I acknowledge that it is everybody’s right to wear a swimsuit at Desire. That being said, I will offer my opinion that it really annoys me when people come to Desire and keep their suits on. There are enough textile resorts around, why would you go to a c/o resort and keep your suits on? The only explanation that I could think of before today is that you want to look at nude people but are too shy or too embarrassed to be nude yourself. For me, neither explanation is acceptable. My thinking is you either go nude yourself or you don’t go to a c/o resort.
Now, after reading the post I have quoted above, I see that there’s another possible explanation for why some people would go to a c/o resort but keep their suits on: they want attention. They want others to beg them to take their suits off. Really?? To seek attention like that seems a little immature to me (insert mental image of a child screeching “look at me, mommy, look at me!”). That’s definitely not the type of person/people I would care to be around, but that’s my personal preference.
For the record, if you are at Desire and you keep your swimsuit on for your entire stay, there are going to be people (myself included) that will believe that you’re either a gawker and/or pervert who is there to get an eyeful without exposing himself/herself, or your junk (male or female) is not fit to see the light of day.
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