Noobs going in July-Aug

[eastcoasttexans]

Hey yall, just want to say hello and thanks for the awesome posts. It helped my wife decide to go to Desire and we can't wait . July 30th-Aug3rd. Any tips, mostly from the ladies as far a what to pack (theme nights, dinner etc) How racy does it get in the disco? Are we talking crotchless panties, no panties, naked, etc?

Another question is what rules did any of you first timers have that were not in the lifestyle at the time of your first trip. I'm open to it but the wife is a bit more conservative. I'm sure thing might change when we get there and see what everyone else is doing. That always tends to be more of a driving factor in "trying" something out if its the norm rather than the exception.

P.S. to all you new post haters I have gone thew 90% for the posts here and was just looking for a bit of new info as some of the post were old and for different nights.

thanks

[TnG]

A recently posted trip report (very well written) by some first-timers should answer a lot of your questions.

[allovatan]

We were not in the lifestyle our first trip, and we went with the initial intention to just check it out and see if it was indeed for us. Our biggest rule that trip was not to change the rules when either of us were drunk - didn't want that day after regret or an upset partner. We have found that there is no way to completely review every situation you might find yourselves in. Easing into the lifestyle has worked out well for us - experience a bit, talk it through and push things a bit further.

[tout.prest]

There are lots of tidbits of advice throughout the forum but the one that I keep coming back to, is to make sure you and your wife come up with a set of signals to non-verbally communicate with each other. This is VERY helpful to make sure you are both on the same page, when speaking in private is not an option.
These don't need to be complicated, in fact , simple is good . Most important signals though are the signal to "get me out of here !" and "this is awesome".

Just my 2 cents....

Steve

6 more days!!!

[Cali_desire_cpl]

It sure seems like you are the one "pushing" for this trip and it is "you" wanting to have things happen. I will let you in on one thing. It is the woman who should do the leading...us guys should just go with the flow. Don't force things or she will never want to go back

[great scot]

I completely agree with Cali_desire_cpl. Let women run the show and you'll have a ball. If you get pushy or have to many expectations, it can get rocky. I don't speak from experience regarding the "rocky" part. My wife is the tour guide on every one of our trips to Desire and it's been great. I have witnessed men who try to push or arrange situations and it got ugly.

[eastcoasttexans]

Cali - not the case. I asked her where she wanted to go, she asked where I wanted to go and I said we should try Desire for something different. We have a son and wanted an adult trip with both relaxation and excitement . We talked about desire and other places and she actually looked into booking the date to Desire. We are going to take advantage of the Beds and Sin room and are looking forward to it. As far as "other" activities I don't care either way. We have already talked and I stated she is in full control and I have no expectations either way, only to keep an open mind and not have any regrets (either way) when we return. I was just asking because we haven't been to a place like this before and welcome the change but don't really know what to expect.

Thanks Y'all

Cheers

[JONO]

The disco?
... dress for ladies... Yes yes yes...no patties, some crotchless fancy ones, some with a small small g string. Same with the boobs... sheer, nude or very sexy cover. People take more off as the evening gets on!

Action every night in the disco playroom or on the roof next door at the hot tub.

Some wild stuff poolside once in awhile.The staff try to re focus you. ( not like Hedo)
It is all OK... no one is ever pissed. Smiles, laughs and good times.

Not to worry......Your balls will be drained every night!