Asking for clarification on dress codes

[cyunda]

Exactly thanks. It's nude beach étiquette.

[ninaandfrank]

Over our past three or four trips we have noticed many more nude men than women. This seems especially true for the millenial generation. THe impression we have gotten from some couples is that the Mrs. has agreed to go along with the Mr. but she isn't interested in taking off her clothes. We have no problem with anyone (m or f) oogling at all. Hey folks like to watch and that is normal. What makes us uncomfortable is that on occasion Nina receives disapproving looks from other women. This is thankfully rare but happens when she is naked and the other woman is clothed. Usually we just shrug it off but on our last trip not once but twice a bathing suited woman told Nina that she should be wearing a bathing suit. Obviously, that was a very uncomfortable experience.

[travmex]

on our last trip not once but twice a bathing suited woman told Nina that she should be wearing a bathing suit. Obviously, that was a very uncomfortable experience.

Should be wearing a bathing suit - at a nude resort.??? This woman is in the wrong movie!

[jjonnboy]

When I comment online, on the reduction in nudity, especially at RM, I often get the responses of "it's clothing optional, we're free to wear whatever". Your scenario of being made to feel uncomfortable when nude, is to me an example of how the tide is turning. I'm not sure why people pay top dollar to be in a nude positive environment but don't enjoy the freedoms of being nude. If the environment is changing, people need to be careful of what they wish for. We and others are heading more often to Europe, where locals don't need any encouragement to shed their clothes and have fun.

[kbrady]

Been there twice and it is a bit odd to see those folks who keep swimsuits on when at a nude resort...but as someone who doesn't mind the CFNM aspect it isn't a deal breaker. I like to get nude pretty quick. My partner takes a bit more time and evolves from skimpy bikini to topless to nude over the course of a day. Why worry what others are wearing (or not) as long as you are doing you?

[SusanAndDavid]

Over our past three or four trips we have noticed many more nude men than women. This seems especially true for the millenial generation. THe impression we have gotten from some couples is that the Mrs. has agreed to go along with the Mr. but she isn't interested in taking off her clothes. We have no problem with anyone (m or f) oogling at all. Hey folks like to watch and that is normal. What makes us uncomfortable is that on occasion Nina receives disapproving looks from other women. This is thankfully rare but happens when she is naked and the other woman is clothed. Usually we just shrug it off but on our last trip not once but twice a bathing suited woman told Nina that she should be wearing a bathing suit. Obviously, that was a very uncomfortable experience.

We are the nicest couple you'll ever meet (we think so, anyway), but if anyone came up to either of us and said that, our words back to them would not be kind. We're paying top dollar to be at a clothing optional resort and you best believe we take advantage of that. Unless you're paying for my vacation, you have zero rights to ask me to do anything, as long as we're within the rules of the resort. What I do on my vacation should have zero effect on yours. People need to worry about themselves and remove some giant sticks from their seats and enjoy Desire fully. If that means they're wearing bathing suits, cool. If that means I'm naked, cool Don't project your inadequacies on us. I guarantee we're having way more fun than anyone shallow enough to say something like that.

[travmex]

It’s not an inadequacy for a naked woman to feel uncomfortable surrounded by males in cargo shorts - it’s normal. And of course how you behave has an effect on others. Thinking that I paid so I’ll do what I like can be insensitive. It’s not just about rules, it’s about being sensitive to others.
The clothing optional concept is primarily intended to allow people - particularly women - to adjust to the concept of public nudity. The more people that are naked, the easier this is.
But for men, I just don’t get it. Most men spend their entire lives in open locker rooms and bathrooms. The idea that 70% of them are too shy and have to wear shorts all day, just makes no sense. My first visit to a nude resort it took less than 15 minutes to get comfortable nude, it took my wife a few hours. But once it’s done - it’s done.

[TitanTn]

I'm on the same page that it baffles the mind why someone would choose to book and travel to a clothing optional resort and then wear clothes. I don't get it - but to each his own.

I really think a lot of the issue comes from people not understanding (or caring) that the adjectives "clothing-optional" and "nude" have very specific meanings that you can't just define how you want to. People casually label Desire as a "nude" resort and it's not. It's clothing optional. Nude means that everyone must be without clothing, and Clothing=Optional means exactly that - people have a choice. And no one has the right to judge, criticize or really react in any way to someone choosing to go without clothes (or with clothes). The only reactions that should be shared at a place like Desire are compliments. Compliment someone looking fantastic in their birthday suit, or compliment their dinner/costume/dancing outfit. Otherwise, just focus on your partner and enjoy your own vacation.