Emptynesters404 wrote:We are curious if we are the only ones or if others feel the same way about hot tub time. When that time comes around and we are climbing the stairway to heaven, or at least what we perceive to be one of the greatest locations on the planet earth, we believe we are entering a sexy place for some sexy time. Looking at 80% of the others in this special place, we aren't the only ones who feel the same way. Unfortunately, there are some who just don't get it. I am hoping to jump start a discussion about some of the acceptable and unacceptable unwritten rules that exist that makes this place so special. If we are wrong and need to adjust our expectations lets hear it.
1.) For many, one of the most erotic aspects of Desire, regardless of lifestyle participation, is sex in public. It is erotic on so many levels, both for the couple exhibiting and the couples watching. Nothing kills the mood faster than a group of people standing 3 feet away having a loud conversation about their volleyball match earlier in the day or what they had for dinner. It's one thing if the group was there first, but if they walked up and started watching then that is a whole other situation.
2.) Guys wearing swim suits in the hot tub. When Tempations was closed and a lot of guests from there came to Desire, I understand that they may not be there for the same reasons and I gave a pass. Now however, I feel like it is kind of creepy for a guy to be fully clothed watching other people engage in sexual activity while standing in the hot tub. Maybe if you don't feel comfortable you should stay by the pool or sit at the bar.
3.) Okay people, it is 2018 and smoking in public has gone the way of the dodo. I get it, we used to smoke and have smoked many packages of cigarettes sitting at the bar in the jacuzzi lounge. This however is now a SMOKE FREE zone, they have an area over by the beds for smoking. We all pay good money to be there, we wouldn't say anything if there weren't signs saying no smoking, but there are and it kills us if we are downwind.
Let us know what you think and what are some other faux pas that we might be able to help some avoid.
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WE COULDN'T AGREE MORE with EVERYTHING you are saying!!!
1) If a couple is playing and someone arrives there AFTER they have started with their play and starts having some stupid converstation, it is either:
a) Lack of intelligence, or
b) Lack of tack, courtesy, empathy, or
c) Too drunk to behave in a civilized way or
d) Lack of respect, or
e) Lack of interest for sex (in which case, they should have not gone to Desire, but rather have stayed at home).
f) All of the above together.
2) We AGREE with you on this one too. I don't know about the US, but here in Europe it is not a matter of "legal rights" (some other argue that D_RM is a "clothing optional", therefore they have the right to remain clothed....) In our opinion it is a matter of common sense, courtesy, and respect. They may have all the right in the world, but they should have the judgement to realize that going to a place like the hot tub or the playroom (where couples go to play and have sex) IS NOT LIKE GOING TO THE ZOO!!!
There are many other places in the resort where they can go, if they don't want to "blend in" with the rest of couples!!!
3) You are right also with the smoking etiquette. YOU SEE? This is the proof that "THE LAW" is not the matter to be discussed here (as other argue). Because in this case "the Law" is in our side (the side of those who want to be respected) but it doesn't seem to make a difference to un-educated, drunk, rude, unpolite people (we have people like that in Europe too!!!).
4) Even though your post only has 3 points, there is ANOTHER rude behaviour that was described by another (later) post from someone else:
Even though my wife and myself are going to D_RM for the first time next week, we have been more than 20 times to Lifestyle resorts and clubs in Europe and EVERYBODY KNOWS (or at least should) that you should (out of courstesy) NOT use the beds for other than playing, and then PICK ALL your things (towels included, of course) and have the ellegance to leave after you are finished and let that space be used by another couple who also wants to play!!!!
It's INCREDIBLE that we have to say this....it should be COMMON SENSE!!
From what I can see, the management at these resorts doesn't do their job well at enforcing basic, common sense, rules of courtesy.
If they are afraid of "losing customers", they should know that by allowing these rude behaviours, they are also going to lose clients: PRECISELY THE ONES THEY SHOULD KEEP!!!